hearttobreak Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 I have been chatting via email with this woman since the 10th of August. Because of vacation holiday schedules, we did not meet until last night. During August, when she was on vacation, we corresponded through email every few days. So we agreed to meet for dinner and desert. Since it was her town, I let her pick the place. Got there a minute or two after her, and she was already sitting down. Since there before our meet time of 7 pm. She got up and gave me a hug, as I did to her. Smooth talking about her, little about me, not awkward moments or silence even through the meal. She only had water to drink, nothing else. I had a beer. She seemed very reserved, but very talkative, direct eye contact all the way and smiling at times. No crossed legs either. Hands either at her side by the arms of the chair or table (was trying to read her body language). We got the desert menu, she said, she was going to be good and not have desert. Asked for the check, and she offered to go dutch, but said I got it. Asked if she would like to do something last weekend, and she said she did not know if her family was going to their vacation house or not. I said, just let me know mid week. I will call her mid week anyway. I said I really enjoyed tonight, and she said she had a great time too. We walked out and we walked to our cars. Surprisingly, she did not turn around for a hug good bye, so I continued to walk to my car. I am having a hard time reading this one. If the not turning around was just nothing or her disinterest. If it was her disinterest in seeing me again, she could had just said she WAS going away with her family next weekend, not she does not know if she was going away or not. Am I thinking too much into this?
CLC2008 Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Sometimes people can be nervous on a first date. She may have also been waiting for you to initiate some sort of a end-of-date goodnight. All things to consider. If she goes on a second date with you, then that's a good sign.
Author hearttobreak Posted September 20, 2010 Author Posted September 20, 2010 Think its worth sending an email saying I had a nice time and hope the same for her and see what comes back?
CLC2008 Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Think its worth sending an email saying I had a nice time and hope the same for her and see what comes back? Sure. You could say you had a nice time and you'll touch base with her mid-week, during which, you could then propose a second date.
Author hearttobreak Posted September 20, 2010 Author Posted September 20, 2010 That is what I am planning. Just the end of date was weird. Never, even bad dates had one that just waved bye. How do you go and say you had a great time and then wave bye at the end when I'm 3 ft from you? Then again, if she was not interested at all, why hug me at the beginning and spend 1.5 hours with me? Never liked first dates...
CLC2008 Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 That is what I am planning. Just the end of date was weird. Never, even bad dates had one that just waved bye. How do you go and say you had a great time and then wave bye at the end when I'm 3 ft from you? Then again, if she was not interested at all, why hug me at the beginning and spend 1.5 hours with me? Never liked first dates... Well, how did you act on the date and towards her in general?
Author hearttobreak Posted September 20, 2010 Author Posted September 20, 2010 Happy, smiling and open. She didn't ask me any real questions. I started off and we continued that on into other contexts of her teacher studies, education travel and family.
CLC2008 Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Hrm. Did you tell any penis jokes? That happened to me once. Some people just have different ways of expressing themselves and learning about each other, it doesn't always consist of questions but rather spending time with the person and interacting with them. And again, it was a first date, so try not too put too much stock into it where you're analyzing each and every detail.
Author hearttobreak Posted September 20, 2010 Author Posted September 20, 2010 Yea, I read her as more conservative in the way she was talking. We talked about a few shows and how she wasn't crazy about all the nudity in them and such. I knew to watch watch I say. So, no, nothing negative. I assume, she will email back either a great time too or she's no longer interested. I guess, if she was no longer interested, she could had emailed me already and said so. I've had that happen to me before.. Those are fun to read.
CLC2008 Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Fun to read? Hmmph. Try having your heart broken... B*lls to the walls!
Author hearttobreak Posted September 20, 2010 Author Posted September 20, 2010 Fun to read? Hmmph. Try having your heart broken... B*lls to the walls! Being sarcastic in terms of fun to read. Hence, if that's what she says, then its not going to be fun to read for me. Yea, I've had my heart broken a few times. Hence, I am a little hesitant to jump into something so fast.
CLC2008 Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Being sarcastic in terms of fun to read. Hence, if that's what she says, then its not going to be fun to read for me. Yea, I've had my heart broken a few times. Hence, I am a little hesitant to jump into something so fast. Completely understandable. I'm not a guy, so I don't know their thinking in terms of what they expect after a first date and how they evaluate a woman's interest level. IA mean there's obvious signs, but, each case is different.
CLC2008 Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 What does IA mean? I meant to say "I mean". Sorry, "IA" was a typo.
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