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My last relationship ended 4 days ago. We were a power couple everyone loved and thought god made us for eachother. She helped me in my construction business with my dad. We were a great team. Well we had been together for 2 months she is 26 me 23 She quit her job and sold her car to be with me I was reluctant but said we coud used the money to put on her another car it was only $500. She am I wanted marriage I got the ring but wanted to wait till we were on our own till I did it. I had always been on my own but I sold my house before she came and so we were left at my parents house. She had a son who I adored. Her and me spent every waking moment together (thats a problem I think). I went back and forth between building our house, buying a house, or renting an apartment for 6 months I choose the apartment. She wanted to take control of our finances but I told her I had it (was tring to impress her) She thought I was moving to slow on getting her a car and everything. I went behind her back and purchased her a Denali. I wanted to suprize her when we moved into the apartment. She had a bad past I wanted to turn her life around. Well the day we were to move into our place she left and went back to her parents. No car, no job, no money. She wants the $500 back. I paid her child support, cell phone, purchased the ring, Her a new car. Everyone says she left you and the finacial freedom shes not your responsibility. I have been good so far bout giving her time to think. I do tell her what my heart feels but stoped because she knows how I feel. Havent heard from her since yesterday exept she text just now saying dont forget bout your ticket this week. I said thanks I wont. What should I do?? :confused: I dont want to let her down but she let me down by leaving, my small town was shocked they knew I wanted to suprize her with the suv and stuff and what she ment to me.

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My last relationship ended 4 days ago. We were a power couple everyone loved and thought god made us for eachother. She helped me in my construction business with my dad. We were a great team. Well we had been together for 2 months she is 26 me 23 She quit her job and sold her car to be with me I was reluctant but said we coud used the money to put on her another car it was only $500. She am I wanted marriage I got the ring but wanted to wait till we were on our own till I did it. I had always been on my own but I sold my house before she came and so we were left at my parents house. She had a son who I adored. Her and me spent every waking moment together (thats a problem I think). I went back and forth between building our house, buying a house, or renting an apartment for 6 months I choose the apartment. She wanted to take control of our finances but I told her I had it (was tring to impress her) She thought I was moving to slow on getting her a car and everything. I went behind her back and purchased her a Denali. I wanted to suprize her when we moved into the apartment. She had a bad past I wanted to turn her life around. Well the day we were to move into our place she left and went back to her parents. No car, no job, no money. She wants the $500 back. I paid her child support, cell phone, purchased the ring, Her a new car. Everyone says she left you and the finacial freedom shes not your responsibility. I have been good so far bout giving her time to think. I do tell her what my heart feels but stoped because she knows how I feel. Havent heard from her since yesterday exept she text just now saying dont forget bout your ticket this week. I said thanks I wont. What should I do?? :confused: I dont want to let her down but she let me down by leaving, my small town was shocked they knew I wanted to suprize her with the suv and stuff and what she ment to me.

 

Am I reading this correct, and all this happened in TWO months? If so... Holy fast track relationship.

 

I don't know what to say to all this...

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Am I reading this correct, and all this happened in TWO months? If so... Holy fast track relationship.

 

I don't know what to say to all this...

 

I was thinking the same thing. Possibly the relationship moved so fast that it scared her away? Yeah you did do a lot of amazing things for her but if you did all of that in all of 2 months, it may have chased her away. In this case NC may actually get her to come back around, just like a lost cat, the more you chase them the faster they run away but if you stop chasing them and slowly walk away, they generally follow you home.

 

If that does work, I would suggest toning it down a bit and not trying to squeeze 10 years of a relationship into 1 week.

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Give her the 500 bucks back.. she sold her car and gave you the money for a new car and it was your choice to not buy the car till later then buy it and not tell her.

 

You can't use the 500 to offset other expenses like the ring and cell phone bills because the money was only in your hands to buy a new car with..

 

Sorry..

 

Breakups suck...

 

and stop buying her anything more.. the child isn't yours to support..

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