DeSantos Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 First of all, apologies if my message seems garbled, i just broke up with my g/f of 8 months and I have no idea what is wrong with me. So here is the story, I've known her for a few years as a friend of a friend and we got together in Jan, she was a single mother and I have no children we are both 30. Her main issues with me were that I did'nt make her feel secure enough, til this day she never met my parents or any of my family. I never really made and effort to make her meet any of my friends, she met one of my close friends and a few people I know once but that is about it. At this time I don't really have many close friends which I never really brung that to the attention of her. She also complained recently about myself only texting or calling her when I was not with friends or family whereas she would take time out from her friends and call me whenever and not let her friends get in the way of me. We were from two different cultures and had a lot of differences. I had split with her before about the differences as it caused a lot of problems (i.e me having female friends, not that I see alot of them as it is). This time, I splif with her after a big arguement over which included lists of things brought up like: me facebooking and instant messaging a relative that i'd recently come to know of a few years back. I guess now I am feeling like I really am not ready for a future with her as I am thinking how can say I love someone when they tell me I treat them so badly. Should I be single, I love this person but I would rather them not be affected by my way of thinking and my actions, as I do feel sometimes that I can be immature about certain things, she says a guy of 30 should not be thinking the way I do. Would you guys let someone go for the fact that you knew you treated them so badly and you just werent sure you could give them what they deserved ???
Oxo Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Why can't you do the things that she has asked for i.e the calling and stuff? Or is it that there is nothing wrong with you, and she has unrealistic expectations? Because if she has those expectations, put it back on to her and talk to her about it and work out if she is willing to do some changing as well.
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