Feeling bored with her after nearly a year

[bdfan1026]

So, this is rather complicated. I met my current girlfriend while touring the country with her and about 100 other people in a drum and bugle corps (basically marching band for those who don't know what it is) the summer of 2009. We both watched each other but never really talked; that came later after tour was over. We started talking on the phone alot and everything was great; excitement strong, etc. We really came to find that we had alot in common, and for me that is difficult. We both have strong passions that we pursue and we work very hard to pursue them. She's probably the most compassionate girl I've ever met and gives selflessly to others on a regular basis. We both have the same perspectives on a variety of different topics and she is very realistic and down-to earth. I'd imagine that many readers on this forum would find those descriptors cliche, but she is VERY intelligent. After talking in a long distance relationship for about 6 or 7 months, we toured together again the next summer for about 3 months together. This tour we were much closer; we sat with each other on long bus rides at night and slept in the same bed at new housing sites. It was like living together; we were around eachother constantly and she and I got to really know what the other person was like, and I really liked her. However I came to feel sometimes overly content; she's everything I would want, but at times things felt too safe. I feel like either I pushed those feelings aside or developed a new, more positive attitude, and I'm not sure which emotion was what actually happened. When it came time for us to both go home, I cried when I knew we would not be around each other anymore. Now, after being gone, I feel depressed and bored about the situation. She's everything I could have ever wanted. It was almost like she was my best friend, but now I feel less motivated to talk to her. It doesn't help that we both have extremely busy schedules on top of that. Unlike my first year of college when we began talking on the phone, it doesn't feel like I'm turning to her for solace and comfort anymore. I have more feelings about this that I haven't really described but I'm having a hard time explaining everything right now. I really miss her but I also feel like I'm apathetic. When I think about it I get sad because I feel like she's not getting what she deserves. She's truly an incredible girl and an even better person. I love her, but I just feel bored. What do i ever do.... I want to cry.

[jenifer1972]

You are too young to be committed to a 'one and only'. Let both of you off the hook, be friends, but don't box yourself in at this stage. That is what your subconscious is telling you.

[aerogurl87]

You move on, that's what you do. Yeah she may be a great girl, but apparently she's not enough for you to be satisfied with, which is fine. Just date other girls and find someone who will satisfy you completely.

[folieadeux]

Were you guys ever officially together? Sounds like you had more of a mutual admiration/friendship than anything else. You both need to move on.

[Amira4210]

I have also been in a LDR for about a yr now! You have to decide what is more important? Its hard to maintain passion and "love" in a LDR. But its even harder to find someone that you can say all of those things about. THink back to your ex's that weren't a LDR, did you feel the same way abou them, did you love them and feel they were perfect for you as well, but you just let them go for.....? You guys can do web cam, try and see each other on holdidays breaks from school, if this girl is really everything you say that she is, then I am sure you can stick it out and make it work! Good luck!

[Omei]

I agree with aerogurl87 sounds like it was a 1 time thing that you just didn't want to end. Doesn't sound like you're okay with the Distance.