Iselia Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 I'm sitting here crying and upset as heck. I miss her so dang much. I just want "us" to be, well us! I miss her presence in my life. I miss so much about her. It's been 5 months broken up, 1 month NC. I'm just so sad things turned out this way. Can it really not be fixed? I can't do anything unless she meets me half-way.
leal10 Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 i feel your pain...i am in the same **** as you are...i miss my ex soooooooooo much...we are on a 6DAY NC... can you post me your situation?
Billie The Puppet Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 I'm just starting week 3 of NC, (almost 2 months since we have broken up ) I still miss my ex but it's not worth breaking No Contact for. I'm just trying to focus on improving my own personal life for now.
rainman1974 Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 I'm on day one of no contact. We broke up 6 months ago and last hooked up 4 days ago. It's bloody hard, i want to text her now.. but then i'll see her at work tomorrow
leftfield Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 I'm about 2.5 months broken up and I miss her like crazy. Felt myself feeling sad about it tonight so I tried to focus on something else, watch TV, web surfing, anything. It doesn't work. Inevitably I found myself back here at LS. I feel like part of me is missing and I don't know how to replace it. People will try to say that there will be someone else in my life, but she won't be her. And that hurts so much. I'm sure you know that feeling. Sorry to hear you're feeling down Iselia. I feel your pain too.
Ajax Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 A couple months before my ex left me she helped me move into a new apartment. She helped me decorate it and went with me to pick out most of the things I have in it. She also mentioned how she thought we'd be moving in together someday. That's not going to happen now, and I'm left surrounded by the memory of her. I definately feel for ya. I think if any of us had a magic wand that would take away everyone's pain we'd use it. But we don't unfortunately. But we can listen to each other's stories and offer some advice and sympathy. I hope you start feeling better real soon. Till then, let it out when you need to and keep posting.
Author Iselia Posted September 20, 2010 Author Posted September 20, 2010 I just miss this woman but I shouldn't. She tossed me like garbage in the end. I still cry over this relationship. I still feel miserable for a fair amount of time. I can't see myself investing anymore energy into another relationship. I don't have it in me if this is going to be the outcome. I don't even know if the woman I love is still alive/exists. All I see now is a pretty dang selfish, immature, irresponsible person. I mean, I realize to a degree humans are always selfish... I didn't think she'd ever treat me like this, ever. can you post me your situation? I haven't posted my whole story and probably won't for a while since it's long and heartbreaking. Basically, we are staying broken up because my ex is "in love" with someone new (and by "in love" I mean she feels the butterflies when she thinks of this new woman and thinks this new woman can do no evil). Also, my ex went to college about 5 hours away and sees it as a time to do whatever and whomever she chooses. I'm basically the big old Plan B.
Author Iselia Posted September 20, 2010 Author Posted September 20, 2010 To anyone reading this, How long did it take you to stop missing your ex? How long were you two NC? How long were you two together? I know everyone is different, but I'm fairly curious.
YellowShark Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 I miss who I thought she was... not who she really is.
Leandro Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 I miss who I thought she was... not who she really is. Yea same here.
Sweet_Tea Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 To anyone reading this, How long did it take you to stop missing your ex? How long were you two NC? How long were you two together? I know everyone is different, but I'm fairly curious. It's only been under 2 months since we broke up. We had a mutual break up but I still miss him. I miss him a little less as the days go by but some days I miss him like crazy, especially when I look around my room and see memories of him everywhere. Like today... I haven't gone NC. NC was not for me as I needed closure after the relationship and discussing the reasons why it was for the best made it easier for me to understand and accept. I still talk to him every few days. I think it helps knowing that they still care... but as you said everyone is different!
LikeCharlotte Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Start taking care of you. Grief is no picnic but unless you start trying to get past it you will be stuck. Cry, scream, break things, whatever... just start going through the grief and get to acceptance. Give your self distractions and happy breaks with things you love but dont beat yourself up for feeling sad. That is normal and you need to do it. Just focus on getting over it not on what is already done. I know it hurts but you have to call it over or you will never start healing.
Username37 Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 I'm sitting here crying and upset as heck. I miss her so dang much. I just want "us" to be, well us! I miss her presence in my life. I miss so much about her. It's been 5 months broken up, 1 month NC. I'm just so sad things turned out this way. Can it really not be fixed? I can't do anything unless she meets me half-way. Focus on YOU man. You're money. Her? A quitter plus she changed man. You miss the OLD her. And from what I've been reading from you, the old her is gone for good. I've been broken up for 4 months and 3 months NC. My eyes are way more open now and one day, you'll wake up and find out she's nothing special. Give yourself time. Just enjoy life and stick with LS and NC and you'll be dandy.
The-Zen-Warrior Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 To anyone reading this, How long did it take you to stop missing your ex? How long were you two NC? How long were you two together? I know everyone is different, but I'm fairly curious. Well, I can't speak for everyone, but in regards to just me, at times I still miss my ex-wife. It's been 2 years & 4 months since our divorce, and at times I kind of miss her. I don't believe that the emotions and feelings in regards to "missing" someone ever disappear. I know you more than likely don't want to hear that, but for me it is the truth. Things will get better with time, time being the key word here. For me, the feelings of missing my ex-wife haven't gone away, they have only lessened and have weakened to a point that they are now manageable. As far as your question of "How long were you two NC"? For me there always was contact, before the divorce, during the divorce and since after the divorce. Kind of hard to have "no contact" with someone who is the Mother of your child. I have to go through my ex-wife as to make contact with my Son, while he is with her. In regards to your question, "How long were you two together"? Well my ex-wife and I were married for 14 years, we knew each other for about a month before that. So 14 years and 1 month's time.... Trust me it's gets better with time......I would dabble in the coping section of these forums and try to read up on how other people handled their situations, more importantly, how they coped with it all.
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