lucynda1 Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 Hi everyone can anybody out there give me some advice. Well I made the biggest mistake in my life. I have cheated on my bf with my ex. and I dont understand why I did it. Am so mad at my self, the worse thing is that my ex e-mail to my new bf by saying that my bf should ask me what happened on Wednesday. The reason why my ex did this is because he want me to break up with my bf and get back with him. Now my bf saw the message he ask me what happened and I told him what happened and after that I still hangout with him on that same day. then the next day I call him that I feel bad for cheating on him. it's 7 days that I havent see him. The worse thing is that I cheated on him and I feel bad that I hurt him. He is a nice guy and he didn't deserve that I did to him. But my question is should I leave him alone and not call him so he can think about whether he wants to give me another chance or not. I am so mad at myself I just wish I can make it up to him. And it was only one time and I know I will never do i again and it hurts for hurting him.
Don Ho Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 Live and learn Sista. Leave him alone. He may never come back. There is nothing more you can do at this point. Frankly, I would advise him to never talk to you again. Like I said, he may not come back. Maybe you should look at it as "lesson learned", move on and never do it again.
brainblox Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 You have to ask yourself do you love your current man ...?, if your ex is still on the scene then what does that say about the strength of your current relationship ? You say he was a nice guy but you may not want that right now and you have to be honest with him if you care for him and not put him through any more pain. I'm not going to judge you as you seem sincere in your regrets but if I was you I would feel obligated to deal with your current BF meaning you owe him honesty about your true feelings, if you feel to heavy with guilt then tell him what your telling us and see if you can work it out ! Your EX has crossed a line that may end in you loosing both....who's to say your EX ain't just using you as a booty call or maybe your using him ? Be honest to yourself then your BF, your eating far too much cake..you will end up ill. best of luck !
Author lucynda1 Posted September 19, 2010 Author Posted September 19, 2010 thank you for all you advice I know this will help me to think about things. And I know I did wrong. I told my current boyfriend about everything and now he doesnt want to get back with me and I understand his feeling and I know he deserve to know. with my ex bf I never had a good relationship with him we broked up so many times. With my current boyfriend who I cheated, he is a good guy and I just can forgive myself for hurting him. and I know I learn my lesson that cheating is bad. This is the biggest mistake ever.
brainblox Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 Remember too much cake tastes good but it will make you ill ! lame metaphor I know lol It will all work itself out as they say but I hope karma don't come and get ya as the hurt heals on the outside quick but inside takes a while !
TearsofHope Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Apologize to him first off because he didn't deserve it. Then do him a favor and let him go. Trying to win back his heart will not work. Half of these people on here didn't even cheat and can't get their ex boyfriend/gf back. I could imagine cheating on him and trying to get him back. Sounds very impossible. I am not going to say you are a bad person, you just made a bad decision! But do apologize for hurting him, it atleast shows that you took the accountability for your actions.
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