It's over 'for now'

[lolabunny22]

So, recently my ex boyfriend who I have been dating for the past 2 years has decided to break it off. I quote what he says: It's over for now.

I think the best part was it was over a text message..Ryan[my ex] was my first basically everything we started out great and he was like my savior from all my past relationships. Over the past couple years our fights have gotten dumber, I find myself getting mad over stupid stuff and that's one of my faults..and i've constantly said i'm sorry.

 

So, the 'over for now' has been changed to telling me to just move on and date some one here but I dont want anyone here, I was my ex back I want him to want me again and not call me a stalker or obsessed. Why can a guy be obsessive when you break it off with them but when you do it back they get angry?

 

I've been trying to read books and help guides on how to get him back but I find myself breaking the 'rules' the past couple weeks he's wanted sexual stuff from me. I deny him due to the fact well i'm not with him and he whines how he doesnt wanna see anyone else but me yet he can't date me yet he wants what comes with the relationship.. I'm gonna try the whole no contact thing but it's really hard and when I see him talking to other younger girls and giving them so much attention I get angry..that's normal right?

Last night, I sent him one final email saying I wont contact him unless he texts or im's me or calls me. That even though he may want me to move on if he really wants me out of his life to just remove me off face book and my space and delete my number. I don't know all I know is I just want him back..

[pandagirl]

Ok, my ex said the same thing basically, that we are "broken up for now," and that "this was the way things had to be right now." He also told me to move on and blah blah blah.

 

Try not to read into his words too much. The point is, you guys are broken up. Take care of yourself! Try not to dwell too much on this words, even though I know it hurts right now.

[Don Ho]

So he wants to have sex with you without being in a relationship with you? That's what I want from a woman too! LOL. Good for you for not giving in to him. Move on. He's no good for you.

[durkadurka]

So, recently my ex boyfriend who I have been dating for the past 2 years has decided to break it off. I quote what he says: It's over for now.

I think the best part was it was over a text message..Ryan[my ex] was my first basically everything we started out great and he was like my savior from all my past relationships. Over the past couple years our fights have gotten dumber, I find myself getting mad over stupid stuff and that's one of my faults..and i've constantly said i'm sorry.

 

So, the 'over for now' has been changed to telling me to just move on and date some one here but I dont want anyone here, I was my ex back I want him to want me again and not call me a stalker or obsessed. Why can a guy be obsessive when you break it off with them but when you do it back they get angry?

 

I've been trying to read books and help guides on how to get him back but I find myself breaking the 'rules' the past couple weeks he's wanted sexual stuff from me. I deny him due to the fact well i'm not with him and he whines how he doesnt wanna see anyone else but me yet he can't date me yet he wants what comes with the relationship.. I'm gonna try the whole no contact thing but it's really hard and when I see him talking to other younger girls and giving them so much attention I get angry..that's normal right?

Last night, I sent him one final email saying I wont contact him unless he texts or im's me or calls me. That even though he may want me to move on if he really wants me out of his life to just remove me off face book and my space and delete my number. I don't know all I know is I just want him back..

 

Via text and email is pretty low brow, but not to be the ebb in the flow but sometimes guys just need time and space.

 

I know many girls think that guys just want to tow the line and look around for another girl right after you've broken up, but that is not always the focus of breaking up.

 

I've found that, as a guy, I'm very fixed in my ways and I really struggle with the demands of everyone around me, and in order for me to change I really just need to be alone for a bit and reflect. I can't do that when I'm being pulled in a thousand different directions.

 

Obviously everyone's situation is different, I'm just saying that sometimes 'time and space' isn't code word for, I want to go out and hook up with a bunch of girls then come back to you.

[lolabunny22]

I do actually understand he needs the time, it just kills me inside.. Like, it's killing me to be seeing him talking to this freshman girl at his school who has a boyfriend yet they are playing 'grab ass' he tells me she's only his friend but as one point he was saying he may try and date her. I don't know if he asked her out and got rejected because she eludes to say: I shouldn't be talking to you about my boyfriend problems for obvious reasons. Then he goes to say: Despite the obvious reasons im still your friend.

 

He told me a couple days ago he'd go with me to my homecoming dance which may I add age may have a factor in all of this. We are both juniors in Highschool i'm supposed to be a senior. This is our most important year for colleges and stuff so I understand he wants to try and get his life together but did he have to push me out to do that?

 

And the fact he said in a month he'd go with me kinda makes me happy..but at the same time i'm really upset. I told him if he really wants me out of his life to block me and remove me from everything and I wont bother him but he's yet to do it..which also adds another point to happiness.