angielove Posted September 19, 2010 Share Posted September 19, 2010 So I recently met this guy... let's call him Jim. He was doing a gig at the comedy club where I was bartending. I thought he was VERY cute the moment I saw him. His whole comedy routine was about girls, and he was very cocky about it all. After his act, he came and sat at the bar to drink. We started talking and we got along so well! Just before he left, he goes to me "I think I'll let you put your number in my phone" haha... like I said, he was very cocky. So I did, and he msged me that night just asking how work was etc etc. No contact has happened since (it's only been a few days). I think I could really like this guy. We clicked so well! I'm going to call him this weekend and ask him out for drinks. But I'm quite apprehensive about the fact that he is a comedian, and the content of his act (girls girls girls!). Has anyone dated a comedian? Or has any opinion on the matter? What if he uses me for material lol!! Wow, would that be embarrassing... :S Link to post Share on other sites
desertmoon Posted September 19, 2010 Share Posted September 19, 2010 It can be fun dating a comedian, I would think. But, ask him if any of the "girls" he dated ended up in his comedy routine, esp. if the relationship did not work. If so, how would you feel about that? Link to post Share on other sites
JamieA Posted September 19, 2010 Share Posted September 19, 2010 Never dated a comedian but I've attended many live shows. And they always use the spouse or SO as material. It depends on whether you would be able to handle that or not. And, how can he be attractive with suck cockiness you spoke of? That sounds like a turn-off. Link to post Share on other sites
Philetus Posted September 19, 2010 Share Posted September 19, 2010 I'm a comedian. Our personal lives are fodder for making others laugh. That doesn't necessarily mean you'll wind up in a routine, nor that it will be derogatory about you. John Wing is a great comedian who is very flattering about his wife. But, odds are you'll be in his routine and he'll poke fun at your idiosyncrasies, things that bother him about you/relationship or that he doesn't 'get'. How he talked about other girls in his routine will likely be how he talks about you. Comedians are fun to date. We can make you laugh. The downside of many comedians, particularly stand-up comedians, is they're damaged goods. They carry a lot of baggage. Link to post Share on other sites
JamieA Posted September 19, 2010 Share Posted September 19, 2010 I'm a comedian. Our personal lives are fodder for making others laugh. That doesn't necessarily mean you'll wind up in a routine, nor that it will be derogatory about you. John Wing is a great comedian who is very flattering about his wife. But, odds are you'll be in his routine and he'll poke fun at your idiosyncrasies, things that bother him about you/relationship or that he doesn't 'get'. How he talked about other girls in his routine will likely be how he talks about you. Comedians are fun to date. We can make you laugh. The downside of many comedians, particularly stand-up comedians, is they're damaged goods. They carry a lot of baggage. I've heard that and almost said it. But, I didn't know how true it is. I know someone in my family that is a comedian (just as his personality, not job) and one thing his daughter has complained about is that he can never be serious when serious is needed. She could never have a meaningful discussion with him because he would just start throwing out one-liners at her. Link to post Share on other sites
Philetus Posted September 19, 2010 Share Posted September 19, 2010 I've heard that and almost said it. But, I didn't know how true it is. I know someone in my family that is a comedian (just as his personality, not job) and one thing his daughter has complained about is that he can never be serious when serious is needed. She could never have a meaningful discussion with him because he would just start throwing out one-liners at her. In my career, I've met, worked with, and/or taught hundreds of comedians. For many, humour is the defense mechanism they grew up using. It's how they handle stresses in their life, to treat serious things as a joke so they can laugh it off. The worst of them can never be serious just like your family member. That's not the majority although stand-ups are worse than other types of comedians. I work in the comedy industry but not in stand-up. I quit stand-up 15 years ago and one of the main reasons I quit was because I found stand-ups (in general) to be absolute *******s. Link to post Share on other sites
Author angielove Posted September 20, 2010 Author Share Posted September 20, 2010 He IS a stand up!!! He appears to be normal though Thanks everyone for your input. I wouldn't mind being featured in his routine I guess... maybe I'll get famous lol! x Link to post Share on other sites
witabix Posted September 20, 2010 Share Posted September 20, 2010 I don't have a girlfriend, I just know a woman who would be really annoyed if she heard me say that. Link to post Share on other sites
Cee Posted September 20, 2010 Share Posted September 20, 2010 Just adding my love in for the comedians. I am friends with a lot of professional improv comedians & they are always the hit at parties because their talent is spontaneity. But I get intimidated sometimes because there isn't typical conversation- it's riffing on each other instead. I dated a guy who did amateur stand up. He said some of the funniest things to me on dates, often drawing on original material. He was also had a good heart. I have another friend who is trying to go pro in stand up. Despite the filthy things that come out of his mouth, he is a doll with his sweetheart of a fiancee. I say call the guy and see if you can get a date with him. Btw, that joke about putting his number in your phone is a standard PUA line. Not original material, but a clever joke nonetheless. Link to post Share on other sites
mixwell Posted September 20, 2010 Share Posted September 20, 2010 Btw, that joke about putting his number in your phone is a standard PUA line. Not original material, but a clever joke nonetheless. I wouldn't even call it clever.. Kinda like an overused PUA line. The guy probably read The Game and thought he was suddenly a PUA or watched the show PUA haha.. Link to post Share on other sites
confused192 Posted September 20, 2010 Share Posted September 20, 2010 I recently dated a pretty high profile comedian very seriously. I will say that I think the comedian I dated and the one that you met are VERY different, so take my advice for what it's worth! The comedian I dated is a stand-up and a writer primarily and is fairly famous, has his own TV show, emmy winner, etc. However, he is extremely humble and truly acts like a normal, down to earth person. He was just as amazed that I wanted to date him as I was that he wanted to date me! There are a lot of women around. A lot. If your comedian is older, he can probably handle that attention and not get too involved or caught up in that and still be able to maintain a relationship. The comedian I dated is old enough that he doesn't really give a **** about all that attention and looks for real women to date, as he claims. He always said that comedy groupies and fans at his shows would invite him out in hopes that he would come and continue entertaining them and he wasn't into that, as he just got paid to entertain them! Also, depending on the comedian you date, be prepared to hear about yourself in his stand up routines (or in his TV show:love:) but I don't necessarily mean this in a bad way. My comedian, for example, had been a stand up so long that he has really learned lessons the hard way about talking about people in his set that he does not have permission from. Now, he asks permission and you just try to have a good sense of humor...keep in mind that you are a fan of his work and it's all for entertainment! I hope it works out for you. It is truly a wonderful and thrilling experience and I will remember mine for the rest of my life. If you have any other questions, just ask! Link to post Share on other sites
confused192 Posted September 20, 2010 Share Posted September 20, 2010 The downside of many comedians, particularly stand-up comedians, is they're damaged goods. They carry a lot of baggage. Haha this is absolutely true. A lot of baggage for sure. If you can come to terms with that and really just try to remember that comedians really have to put themselves out there, it's just part of their job...you can handle it. Dating a comedian is amazing. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted September 20, 2010 Share Posted September 20, 2010 (edited) text him a really funny joke.. and make it hot if you want to... it has to be good though.. Text him this.... Pleas turn your mobile phone upside down now!!! Hurry 370HSSV 0773H or this.... You are here: X hahahahahahaha Edited September 20, 2010 by Art_Critic Link to post Share on other sites
confused192 Posted September 20, 2010 Share Posted September 20, 2010 text him a really funny joke.. and make it hot if you want to... it has to be good though.. Text him this.... Pleas turn your mobile phone upside down now!!! Hurry 370HSSV 0773H or this.... You are here: X hahahahahahaha I would text him or call him and let him know that you loved his set and would like to hang out outside the club. Have a date and time in mind before you call. Set yourself apart from the other thousands of girls he meets and show some assertiveness by calling and directly asking to hang out. Link to post Share on other sites
confused192 Posted September 21, 2010 Share Posted September 21, 2010 So, I am obviously really curious to see how it goes when you ask him out for drinks because I keep posting:o...keep us updated!! Link to post Share on other sites
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