dreams2000 Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 Me and my boyfriend steve split up almost 3 weeks ago. he hadn't been very interested for the last couple of weeks. he was unhappy because he was in debt, but he blamed me for it. he said all his money went on me, which wasn't true but it really hurt me when he said i took advantage of him financially because we did used to take it in turns to pay. it was fair. then he wanted to cancel seeing me to go out with a mate and on the sunday when we split he didn't want to spend the evening with me as planned to do laundry! So i asked if he was going off me. He said he didn't get any affection off me and i treated him like a glorified friend. He said that when he told me he loved me or he had strong feelings for me, I'd just say yeah that's nice! i realised i did do that and when he asked me how i felt about him i didn't know. I said i liked him but wasn't sure about anything else. I didn't know whther i would ever be able to return his feelings for me. I realised it must have been horrible for him saying how he felt all the time and not getting anything back. he'd started saying he was falling for me really early and i thought it was lust, i didn't think it was genuine love, so i never took it seriously. he came back later that day but i said we couldn't try again because i was just going to keep hurting him and i didn't want that. Anyhow 2 days after we split, I started working in the same buiulding as him. Not because he was there. I'd planned it before because i wanted to learn new skills and i'd felt like i wasn't doing that in the job i'd been him. Now i see him every day. He's really upset. I've started going for chats with him after work like we used to do and we've been snogging a couple of times last week. he's moving back to where his parents live and then he's going back in the army. i'm really confused. i almost said let's get back together last week, but then i didn't because i don't know if that would be the right thing to do.
lizzy22w Posted September 25, 2010 Posted September 25, 2010 It almosts sounds like you are leading him on, or keeping him on the side until something better comes along. If you know he feels so strongly about you, and you don't know what you feel...then stop pulling him along. A guy did that to me for the past year, and he just couldn't figure out his feelings towards me. He would flip flop all the time with the thought of us being together officially, which is what it sounds like you are doing. If you don't know, and you have the tiniest bit of respect and caring for the guy, then let him go completely. The longer you string him along, the harder it will be for him later.
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