Ex calls with disturbing news

[starwarsnerd1]

Last night my ex girlfriend, whom i dated for 3 yrs gave me a call around 11am with disturbing news. We had been broken up for 6 months and within the last few months, we talked maybe 1 or 2 times a month. She had left me for a guy who she imagines is better with her. I found out 2 months ago she is engaged to him and now she told me she is 7 weeks pregnant. She tells me her love for me is still there...that she will never be over me cause she loves me so much. I love this girl with all my heart but I just don't want to see her slowly destroy her life at the young age of 21. We talked for 5 hours about everything. both of us crying at points. It just hurts to know the true love of my life is experiencing this with a guy she has been with for 6 months. Right now i'm just lost and confused.

[Kat]

Let me guess, she found out she was pregnant, told her fiance, who inturn dumped her and she came running back to you?

[starwarsnerd1]

nope, she told me he is really excited...oh yeah, he is 19 and still in high school, while she has a year left of collge

[BrainRightHeartWrong]

for your own sanity bennett RUN RUN RUN !!!!!!!!!

 

i have seen guys heads absolutely fried with women like this

 

tell her to stay away from you and sort her own problems out

 

she is not your responsibility any more and it was HER DECISION!

[midori]

I know you still love her, but I think it might be time to fully disengage. For two reasons:

 

1. She is evidently making a go of it with the new guy. They have plans to marry, and now she is carrying his child. They will have a child together. That's huge. If she's going to go through with it she needs to be focused on making it work. You're a distraction. She's allowing herself to toy with the idea of still loving you -- and I'm not saying she doesn't in some sense, but she has made other choices, and now other real commitments. She needs to let go of the idea of you, as painful as that might be for both of you.

 

2. You need to move on. You don't deserve to be Backup Man, the guy perpetually waiting in the wings. You might see all kinds of risk factors in her current situation-- the newness of their relationship, his youth, her youth. You might be right in thinking it's unlikely to work. But since they're trying anyway, you need to step back and accept that you are not involved, and not responsible.

 

I'd wish her well, and tell her that you'll see her when you see her, or something to that effect. It's time to stop having her be a current part of your emotional life. Right now, she's only in the past. You cannot predict the future. Maybe your paths will cross again at some point. But not right now. So you can remain in limbo indefinitely, or you can accept the current reality and move on.

 

Sorry. You must be in a lot of pain right now. I'm really sorry. Good luck.

[eagle_nate]

Ok, so she dropped you like a hot potato, and now that things are tough, she's calling you to talk? Sounds like someone is preparing a back-up plan.

 

It also doesn't sound like she took a whole lot of time to heal from your relationship before she started making babies with this younger lad.

 

I understand your hurt and frustration believe me. i too lost someone i loved deeply, and i haven't had to go through this stuff dso i feel your pain. But, imagine the pain possible in this situation?

 

Look at all the problematic issues you presented in just those few paragraphs.

 

I know it's easy to say, move on buddy, you're asking for a world of hurt and quite frankly, this chick doesn't sound like the sharpest knife. I'm not suggesting you never speak to her again but let her know you aren't interested in a romantic relationship with a 7 week pregnant woman ...are you? If so, Jerry Springer may be your better option for discussing further.

 

Run for your life kid