newstart85 Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 I've been talking/dating this guy for 2 months and a half now. He lives 5 hours away and we are 25 years old. When he came to my town, I couldn't meet up with him because of an emergency and I let him know about him. He got really angry saying that I broke a promise and that he cant trust me. I asked him to give me another chance, and he said until he begins to fully trust me again, we're not in a relationship. We still talk everyday, but I'm the one who contacts him for the most part. I'm more affectionate in what I say to him, but hes not anymore and he says he cant until he trusts me again. He tells me to call him yet hes not the first to. I like him a lot and he knows that. He told me he likes me too. I don't know if he likes the attention that I give him and if thats whats making him to continue to talk to me. I'm usually the first to text/call. I asked him if I was bothering him and if he wanted space, in which he replied no and said dont worry. Two days ago I wanted to know how he really felt so I texted him. Me: am I your girlfriend? Him: why are you asking a weird question? Me: that's weird? Him: not until I trust you again.. After that, I didn't reply. He calls me 2 hours later and I tell him I'm going to bed because I'm tired. The next morning he texts me good morning and asks if I slept well. I kept it brief and didn't contact him afterwards and I didn't hear from him as well. The entire day today I didnt contact him but ended up doing so a few minutes ago asking him if he's doing well. He says,"yes and I havent heard from you in awhile. were you hurt/upset?" I said, "yes, a little bit, have a good evening then." he replies back, "sorry." and i didnt say anything afterwards. I was rejected, yes. But what I dont understand is, why he acted like he was interested in me as well by sending me songs, pictures a few days ago. And he keeps checking my blog like 2-3 times a day. Why?
TearsofHope Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 Because some people have a tendency to jump in a relationship in 2 months and some it takes time. I know someone who got in a relationship in less than 2 weeks.. for me it took a year til we got together .. everyone is different, but I would give it some time. Don't rush to soon, you don't want to scare the guy off u kno.
Lost Fish Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 I disagree with Tears. First off. Stop with the passive aggressive texty-text games and get on the phone with him. He drove 5 hours to see you and you flaked on him - even if it was a legitimate excuse, I can understand his lack of trust. You both seem young. Get more honest with him. And if I were you I'd make an effort to win his trust back. Talk about it. Go visit him. Show him you want him. And be honest with yourself - if you aren't that into him, then break up.
Ajax Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 Hate to jump on the bandwagon here, but yeah, he drove five hours for you. If someone drives five hours for you, and you let them do it, you owe them the respect of seeing them. If you're commited enough to let him drive five hours, then you're commited enough to let him be with you during the emergency. You didn't say what it was, but if it was a family emergency and you don't feel comfortable enough with him to have him there with you and your family, then don't expect him to make the trip again.
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