USMCHokie Posted September 18, 2010 Posted September 18, 2010 Yes, it's a dealbreaker for me. But some women might even consider what I do for diet and nutrition a dealbreaker...to each their own...
Sham WOW Posted September 18, 2010 Posted September 18, 2010 I had a friend once that was a strict vegan. It was kind of inconvenient going out to eat with her because there were so many places she refused to eat. So many places we liked to eat so we stopped inviting her when we knew we would be eating out. And don't get me started on macrobiotic eaters!
EasyHeart Posted September 18, 2010 Posted September 18, 2010 I don't have any problem with dating a vegan, but as others have mentioned, many of them are very moralistic. I don't want to be converted and I don't want to be lectured (and I'll lecture right back -- humans are designed to eat meat; vegan diets are not healthy in the least). If you are a vegan who can say, "Wow, that steak looks great" when we are in a restaurant, then that would be okay. I have to eat a gluten-free/dairy-free/egg-free diet because of health conditions, and a lot of people have problems with that. So I usually put it out there ASAP. If it's a dealbreaker, then I want to know about it. I get LOTS of responses like some in this thread of "I love to eat and want to be able to do that with my BF" and that's just not gonna happen with me.
Citizen Erased Posted September 18, 2010 Posted September 18, 2010 Going vegan is a personal choice. As is my decision to eat meat. If my fiancé was vegan, if he stuck to his choice and didn't try to change mine, I'd have no problem. I find religious zealots only slightly more annoying than pushy vegetarians/vegans.
theBrokenMuse Posted September 18, 2010 Posted September 18, 2010 Dealbreaker for sure. The complete diet incompatibility would only cause issues plus if they held that diet choice for moralistic reasons rather than health reasons it's quite safe to consider it likely that they would be considering themselves morally superior to me which would really make me feel uncomfortable.
witabix Posted September 18, 2010 Posted September 18, 2010 Mountain lions and wolves do it all the time. In a much more savage way They are arming mountain lions and wolves? Aren't those things dangerous enough? Dating a vegan, no way. Last SO was a vegetarian, pain in the neck when you go out to eat. Vegan would just do my head in, unless they were private about, being all up in my face and evangelical about veganism would drive me crazy loco!
Author loverofloveandstuff Posted September 18, 2010 Author Posted September 18, 2010 Easyheart - It's pretty ignorant to assume all vegans aren't healthy because of their diet. Yes, there are vegans that don't take care to ensure they are getting all their dietary requirements, just like many meat eaters. There are also vegans who always make sure they are getting all the nutrients they need to maintain their health... just like many omnivores. Thanks for the responses guys
witabix Posted September 18, 2010 Posted September 18, 2010 poor deer or elk. no one should have to kill animals to eat. I don't think I could eat them if they were alive. You would have to at least stun them.
Author loverofloveandstuff Posted September 18, 2010 Author Posted September 18, 2010 After reading all your responses, I'm seriously considering changing my diet. Although I've only been vegan for a short period of time, I can feel it taking it's toll on my social life. Not only with dating, but going out to dinner with friends is more difficult now too. Not to mention, none of my friends have been very supportive, they act like I'm crazy. My relationships with people are more important than the specifics of the food I eat (as long as I can be in good health) so I think I need to put my priorities into place. In order for me to be as social as I'd like to be, I probably need to be a bit more flexible in my eating habits...
hydorclops Posted September 18, 2010 Posted September 18, 2010 MrHalfJack, Vegans love animals, but they seem to hate vegetables. Why is it OK to kill and devour plants? Think of how many meals you get from one old dead cow. Now realize that eating just one bowl of black eyed peas demolishes an infinity of future generations of innocent lives.
gypsy_nicky Posted September 18, 2010 Posted September 18, 2010 (edited) to the OP, yes it is a turn off and deal breaker. Only because most men do not bother with the ethical and or health benefits of being a vegan. Although for men they do spend an excess on looking buff (excessive dieting and exercise). There is also a perception of elitism/vanity/snobiety when dealing with any form of 'healthy/ethical' eating habits that is uncommon. Usually most people will think your doing it out of excessive vanity. Edited September 18, 2010 by gypsy_nicky
leftfordead2 Posted September 18, 2010 Posted September 18, 2010 dealbreaker for me too. I used to (keyword is used to) have a vegan friend who would criticize what I eat whenever we go out. If i order fish n chips etc., she would go on and on about how a salad is better. Or she would say "you're eating that?! really? You can finish that much?"
Lemontang Posted September 18, 2010 Posted September 18, 2010 I wouldn't say it's a deal breaker for me, but I dated a vegan once but I always took issue with her picking on what I ate even though I was happy for her to choose what she ate. Heck she'd go all out if I ate fish about how it's wrong...hang on didn't Jesus eat fish too. Needless to say it didn't work out, but then I never picked on her choice of lifestyle. That and I hate cows so much I think it's my civic duty to do my part and eat them.
glitteronthehighway Posted September 18, 2010 Posted September 18, 2010 I can kind of relate as well being a celiac, but I have never been told my dietary limitations are a turn off. Every guy that's wanted to go on a date with me has been totally fine with my limited selection of restaurants, and many are even happy to do the research on restaurants we can eat at. It also may be different because my dietary restriction is not a voluntary life choice. It's funny though, because I don't think I could date a vegan or between the both of us we really wouldn't be able to eat annnnywhere.
Feelin Frisky Posted September 18, 2010 Posted September 18, 2010 My sister is a vegetarian and she suffers constantly from an assortment of malaises including fibro-myalgia. I often wonder if she would be so fragile if she got the kind of protein in her diet that we non-vegetarians get. She doesn't seem to center on protein at all--just as long as it's a plant. I try to get her to try protein powers or tofu but she'd rather be subborn than reasonable. I don't think I'd go for that in a mate. I'm not a meat lover per se. But I make it a basic to start my metabolism with something that provides the building blocks for my own meat. There's fire in my loins--not fibro-myalgia.
OliveOyl Posted September 18, 2010 Posted September 18, 2010 Being a vegetarian wouldn't be a deal breaker, but vegan, yes, because it so dramatically limits where/what one can eat. And dining out is a big source of enjoyment for me. In addition while I don't eat a lot of meat I wouldn't want any disgust/repulsion on the part of my date when I heartily partake in a skewer of chicken satay.
hopesndreams Posted September 18, 2010 Posted September 18, 2010 Most veggies are such because of their compassion for other living creatures. I don't want to suffer and don't want to see others suffer. Human, animal...makes no difference to me. Pain is pain. Sensitivity and intelligence. Those are the top 2 qualities of a vegetarian/vegan. Google 100 reasons to become vegetarian. It might just open your eyes.
leftfordead2 Posted September 18, 2010 Posted September 18, 2010 Most veggies are such because of their compassion for other living creatures. I don't want to suffer and don't want to see others suffer. Human, animal...makes no difference to me. Pain is pain. Sensitivity and intelligence. Those are the top 2 qualities of a vegetarian/vegan. Google 100 reasons to become vegetarian. It might just open your eyes. So what you're saying is that meat eaters have no or less intelligence?
Distant78 Posted September 18, 2010 Posted September 18, 2010 Dealbreaker. I want my woman to have some meat on her bones.
EasyHeart Posted September 18, 2010 Posted September 18, 2010 Easyheart - It's pretty ignorant to assume all vegans aren't healthy because of their diet. Yes, there are vegans that don't take care to ensure they are getting all their dietary requirements, just like many meat eaters. There are also vegans who always make sure they are getting all the nutrients they need to maintain their health... just like many omnivores. Thanks for the responses guysI never said that all vegans are unhealthy!!! I said that I'm happy to argue with moralistic vegans who feel obligated to lecture the rest of us about how only vegan diets are healthy. Vegans can certainly be healthy, but they have to work at it because that type of diet is contrary to the diet that humans evolved with. That's all I said.
hopesndreams Posted September 18, 2010 Posted September 18, 2010 So what you're saying is that meat eaters have no or less intelligence? No, I didn't say that. YOU did.
Crazy Magnet Posted September 18, 2010 Posted September 18, 2010 I'd be fine with dating a vegan and I'd probably eat that way myself. After meeting the family "cow" before it was slaughtered as a teenager I've never really seen meat the same. I'm currently not eating anything but organic chicken, but even that is grossing me out. I don't think I have enough knowledge about what foods to mix to maintain a totally veggie diet.
mortensorchid Posted September 18, 2010 Posted September 18, 2010 Being a vegan is not a bad thing, but it makes others uncomfortable for the fact that a vegan (a true one) has enough discipline to make good food choices when they don't. We are naturally curious about people and why they make the choices they do, whether it's about food or anything else major in life. The only thing I would suggest for vegans and all others out there is that you don't be defensive about it. For example, I was in a bar a long time ago and I met some man who when I asked what he does he said he was a machinist in a shop. Before I could respond in any way, shape or form to it, he said "What's the matter? You too uptight to be with a man who doesn't get his hands dirty every weekday?" Needless to say I was turned off that he would immediately get defensive about it. I would not mind seeing a person who does not eat meats or dairy, nor what he does for a living, but he's acting like everyone is against him for some reason.
kdark Posted September 18, 2010 Posted September 18, 2010 I'm a vegetarian, but I couldn't care less about saving the bunnies or the health reasons behind it. I just don't like the rubbery texture, the blood, the grease, or the taste of any and all meats. Do not fit the profile of a vegetarian, and most everyone I know had no idea for the longest time. It's actually really easy to go out to eat and enjoy good foods at a large variety of restaurants even as a vegetarian. Not being able to go out and enjoy foods if you start dating a vegetarian is a poor excuse not to date one. Vegans, on the otherhand, those mfer's are crazy even to us vegetarians. I think the key to dating a vegan is that as long as they aren't preachy and judge you for your choices in diet, it would be fun.
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