leal10 Posted September 17, 2010 Posted September 17, 2010 HI...its really a long story so i will sum it up... SHE: MY GF.. before me: -sexually abused - phisically abused - totally dissapointed in love -became a little slutty (she admit) -she did everything what guys wanted than she met me: - she was thinking about kids - she was thinking about living together - she was thinking about having baby - she said that luckilly she met me,and she is no loner old her,and she is new person now...she thanked me few times - whenever we broke up for few days (no matter who is the dumper)...she never break NC...always i had to - she even said one time we got together after we broke up,that she knew we will talk again - one time she was really angry and she left me for few days,i broke NC,and when we talked,she said she didn't want to end things like we are some enemies... - last time we broke,she was angry cause i said some bad things,and she didn't even want to talk,and she said we are over forever...i broke than NC after 4,5 days...and that night that we got together...she said that she was thinking about suicied,that she loves me more than her dad or brother,that she so want to be with me,she said i am the best friend she ever had and we ended up having sex and than we were together for 3 weeks...all until 13.September 2010 those 3 weeks,she was again some kind of passive and cold like she always was...i mean she never intiate anything...has no idea what to do...i feel like she has no brains...she could be at my place for 4 days not to mention to go for a walk or go somewhere to do something...just watching TV!!! she was always sooooooooo STUBBORN and so PASSIVE and somehow with no will...she always just talk about how she wanted to do stuff,how she wanted to call me when we were apart....but she never does these things...well i had it enough...and 13.09.2010 when she was sleeping at my place...i said...ENOUGH...i can't do it anymore...no more cold behaviour towards me,no more being STUBBORN,no more neglecting me,and just watching tv...no more...she never change bad stuff...she would find stupid excuses just not to make an effort to make some things better...well when i said it...she wanted to argue...but i read her text that she sended me,that proves how is she behaving towards me (neglecting)...and when i didn't let her repeat her stupid excuses..she said ok...and went to sleep...next day we heard about returning some stuff...and day after (wednesday) we sent eachother 2 mails for some money returning through ebank...and thats it... i dont get it...al the guys that treated her sooooooooo bad...she always did everything to them...and than i helped her soo much and did so much for her...and now she is totally NC...i mean even when she was REEALLY mad,she said she don't want to end up our relationship as some enemy,and even when she was really mad,she than cried of happyness when we were back together...WHY IS SHE USING THAT STUBBORNES against me...CAUSE SHE IS USED AT ME CALLING HER AFTER 3,4,5 DAYS??? CAUSE HER PRIDE IS TO BIG SUDDENLY? EVENTHOUGH SHE DIDNT HAVE IT LAST 18YEARS...(BTW SHE IS 20,I AM 26)...OR CAUSE MAYBE HER MOTHER TOLD HER TO GO ON AND NOT TO TRY AGAIN....SHE REALLY LISTENS HER MOM...BUT LAST TIME WE GOT BACK TOGETHER...HER MOM SAID...THAT SHE HAS NOTHING AGAINST ME,THAT I AM A GOOD GUY,AND THAT SHE LEAVES HER DAUGHTER TO MAKE DECISION...AND WHEN I ASK MY GIRL IS HER MOM MAD CAUSE WE ARE TOGETHER AGAIN...SHE SAID...NO SHE IS NOT...EVEN IF SHE WOULD...I DONT CARE...SO WHAT IS THEN?? AND I CANT UNDERSTAND NEXT THING... SHE CHECKS MY WEBSITE 10 TIMES A DAY,AND OFCOURSE SHE DOESN'T KNOW I KNOW SHE IS CHECKING IG???? WHY WOULD SHE CHECK IT 10 TIMES A DAY AND WRITE MSN STATUSES,IF SHE ONLY HAVE 1 FRIEND THERE (SHE KNOWS I HAVE ACCESS TO HER MSN).. WHY WOULD SHE DO THIS KIND OF STUFF?? PLEEEASE HELP!!!
Author leal10 Posted September 18, 2010 Author Posted September 18, 2010 my ex which i have broke up with her 5 days ago just added me on MSN...eventhough she deleted me the day we broke up...i don't know why she added me...i am not having to much hope to be together...i assume i forgot something in her car...but she could let it know throught the mail...why adding me? i dont know if i should accept it..what to do???
Heartford Posted September 18, 2010 Posted September 18, 2010 How old are you guys? Maybe I missed it, it's hard to read in what you wrote. First of all, calm down. Just be calm. It's all ok.
JamieA Posted September 18, 2010 Posted September 18, 2010 my ex which i have broke up with her 5 days ago just added me on MSN...eventhough she deleted me the day we broke up...i don't know why she added me...i am not having to much hope to be together...i assume i forgot something in her car...but she could let it know throught the mail...why adding me? i dont know if i should accept it..what to do??? Don't accept it. She is a broken person and needs therapy to deal with her abuse issues. As far as your first post, you were all over the place. It was very hard to read and make sense of. And the all caps come across as you're yelling at the readers. Take a deep breath and exhale slowly and try to relax. It's time to end it for once with her. You cannot help her.
Author leal10 Posted September 18, 2010 Author Posted September 18, 2010 hi...i didn't accept her...sorry for the caps lock stuff.. but i did another thing...i know she is visiting my website 6-10 times a day....and today she did the sam thing...so i hate that we end up without saying anything...even without an argument... so i wrote on my website so she can see.. i told her...that i backed away,cause i didn't want to argue as we have agreed last time we got back together and that i have warned her not to neglect me...but she still did it...so i had to broke i said to her that i dont have any negative thoughts about her,that i don't hate her....and i still love her...but i couldnt accept that... i congrat her that she had mad her last exam for this year and that she finished 1 year of university,and that if she ever needs help that she can call me or text me and i will help her...but that i will move on now with my life and not contact her...since i have done all i can and she did much less with this relationship...i told her that i believe in her (she lacks self confidence a lot),that she deserves only the best,that she is beautiful and to work hard for what she is aiming in her life... have i made a mistake...i did broke the NC...but didn't ask to talk to her,didnt call her,didnt sent her a mail,didnt try to be together again...i just wanted her to know this stuff...and that i don't resent her anything... i wrote all that on my website which she is visiting quite a lot (5-10times a day) was it mistake?
JamieA Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 No, I don't think it was a mistake. I think it was a sweet thing to do. I hope she finds her way to some help and you both can find happiness with others in the future.
Author leal10 Posted September 19, 2010 Author Posted September 19, 2010 i dont think that she will seek for some help...since she is kind of person that rarely thinks about important stuff...she leaves as it is...and hopes for the best...or if i make it more clear...she does anything just not to make any effort,cause she don't have much power or will to do anything...so she is basically just hoping for the best...instead of MAKING it better... she didn't reply...but she was stil already 6x today on my website and its only 18:00.. i dont get her...i really dont
Author leal10 Posted September 19, 2010 Author Posted September 19, 2010 hi...i broke the NC...but i am not sorry...i had some stuff to say and clear...i called my ex gf and we met...it was a pleasant talk... like i was always telling to my self...she wants a life without thinking...with brains off...with no progress...doing stuff no matter if its right or wrong... we cleared some stuff...and one thing that was important is that she said i was too demanding...i wanted to have active time with my girl( go bowling.playing tenns,do all kind of stuff)...and i don't like when she say irresponsible or stupid stuff or do that kind of stuff...and she says that she don't want to thinkk what to do and not to do...that she wanna live without thinking... that's the way she was living before me....and than she was crying that she wants to chang it...and be better person...and 10months later she is saying she wants to live pretty much the same way she used to...i am disgusted by this stupid sentence...and i am soooo sorry that i believe her,and that i believed in her,that she will change it...ooooh jesus how naive was i whenever we were talking about this kind of stuff..i believed it everything...eventhough i had no reason to believe... well she than said she went in this 7 days to 2 parties,and that she was drunk and driving drunk too...and that some guys wanted to be with her...but she didnt want to...and that i said 13.09.2010 at night that i cant be with her with just lying in the bad and watching tv...she just said ok...and was thinking...ok its over...i can live without brains from now on.... damn how naive was i this 9 months...and I DID SOOOOOOO MUCH FOR HER...:SOOOOOOOOOOOOO MUCH!!! than i told her,congrat on the last exam she passed and that she made year 1 in university and if she needs any kind of help she can call me,that i will help her...but i will move on...like she did...and that i am going on a date in tuesday like i am really going...i wasn't trying to make her jealous...since she said she don't care about us...but she mentioned some guys and than i mention this girl...so that's it...i broke the NC...but i said what i had to say...and i got her most stupid answer...but this answer is like a gold to me...since i know she is faaaaaar away from the person i need to be...to raise a child like she wanted to do with me...and to live together...she's not what i need...i feel a little akwared,bad,it's not easy...i know i miss her a lot...but now i realize that she is not THAT kind of person...so now i can really start to move on...without counting NC days and hoping for her to write me...we are done...sad as it is...but she is just not the one...i don't deserve this kind of treting like i was treated last 10 months...and i have to go find a girl...who thinks much smarter like this wierd ex...cannot believe she was pretending all this 10 months...amazing...she really acts fantastic...but i guess...i didn't want to admit myself..since i have noticed few things...but still hoping she will make an effort to repair stuff...naive me...now i am going to seek for a women...not girl!! a women who knows what she wants,adult relationship,honest relationship and knows how to enjoy in relationship! EX BYEEEEE!
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