YellowShark Posted September 17, 2010 Posted September 17, 2010 Well it's been 3.5 months NC after a nearly 6+ year relationship and today would have been our 7th anniversary. Long story short.. she cheated, I caught her red-handed because she did it on our deck while her step-son and I were sleeping inside. (I woke up to get a drink of water and caught "them.") Yet I wonder where her head is at today - on a day that would normally be full of romance - (flowers, cards, a nice dinner out, and then hot monkey sex!) I know. Why do I care? I really don't on an emotional level, but I do on an intellectual level. I wonder if the cheating EX is thinking about today - and that for the first time in six years I am gone and the usual tradition is missing. My bet is she doesn't give a crap and will probably be banging the MM she cheated with in our old bed.. since I don't live there anymore!
ShannonMI Posted September 17, 2010 Posted September 17, 2010 Well it's been 3.5 months NC after a nearly 6+ year relationship and today would have been our 7th anniversary. Long story short.. she cheated, I caught her red-handed because she did it on our deck while her step-son and I were sleeping inside. (I woke up to get a drink of water and caught "them.") Yet I wonder where her head is at today - on a day that would normally be full of romance - (flowers, cards, a nice dinner out, and then hot monkey sex!) I know. Why do I care? I really don't on an emotional level, but I do on an intellectual level. I wonder if the cheating EX is thinking about today - and that for the first time in six years I am gone and the usual tradition is missing. My bet is she doesn't give a crap and will probably be banging the MM she cheated with in our old bed.. since I don't live there anymore! Yep, I wondered the same thing on August 11th. That was our anniversary. I was sooooo sad that day. I'm sure he didn't think twice about it. We always celebrated our anniversary the same way you and your ex did. It was always special. Now it's just another day to him, I'm sure. Oh well.
shayan Posted September 17, 2010 Posted September 17, 2010 You are very pragmattic, I'm glad you are so honest and straight with yourself most of these people who get cheated spend like months in dis-illusionment wondering if the other person still loves them or not. I'm proud of your attitude and I believe if you work on rebuilding yourself and forgetting that Biacth! You will make great progress.
Author YellowShark Posted September 17, 2010 Author Posted September 17, 2010 ...most of these people who get cheated spend like months in dis-illusionment wondering if the other person still loves them or not... I think if one can cheat at home while I and her step-son are literally inside sleeping she is a seriously messed-up person - (and really doesn't care about anyone but herself.) Yet today was a "special" day and I wonder if beyond all that narcissism she is thinking about it - even a bit. My bet is no.
PegNosePete Posted September 17, 2010 Posted September 17, 2010 I know where I'll be on our 1st wedding anniversary. Outside the court waiting for them to open so I can get a divorce form! 1 year is for paper right? Take this paper, bitch!!
ShannonMI Posted September 17, 2010 Posted September 17, 2010 I know where I'll be on our 1st wedding anniversary. Outside the court waiting for them to open so I can get a divorce form! 1 year is for paper right? Take this paper, bitch!! Hahahahahahaha good one:D
mickleb Posted September 17, 2010 Posted September 17, 2010 I know where I'll be on our 1st wedding anniversary. Outside the court waiting for them to open so I can get a divorce form! 1 year is for paper right? Take this paper, bitch!! That IS funny, PNP. I'm sorry, YS. On two counts: I'm sorry because there's no reason why today shouldn't hurt (and don't tell me there's no emotion happening then place that 'cheating' so carefully in italics like that ). I'm also sorry for what I'm about to say to you (cos ya knew someone was gonna).. IT DOES NOT MATTER WHAT SHE IS THINKING TODAY. THE ONLY THINKING THAT MATTERS IS YOUR OWN. So, um, yeah. Just put all that good lovin' into yo'self yaknowwotahmsayin'? x
Author YellowShark Posted September 17, 2010 Author Posted September 17, 2010 I'm sorry, YS. On two counts: I'm sorry because there's no reason why today shouldn't hurt (and don't tell me there's no emotion happening then place that 'cheating' so carefully in italics like that ). Sure there is a wee bit of emotion. Why shouldn't there be after 6+ years together. But the emotion is a 1/10 and the intellectual desire for knowledge is a 9/10. I'm also sorry for what I'm about to say to you (cos ya knew someone was gonna).. IT DOES NOT MATTER WHAT SHE IS THINKING TODAY. THE ONLY THINKING THAT MATTERS IS YOUR OWN. So, um, yeah. Just put all that good lovin' into yo'self yaknowwotahmsayin'? You are 100% correct. What she is thinking today is irrelevant to my new life without her. I just wonder if - as a human being - she is thinking about what was a fun, romantic, feel-good day for the past 6 years.
mickleb Posted September 17, 2010 Posted September 17, 2010 I just wonder if - as a human being - she is thinking about what was a fun, romantic, feel-good day for the past 6 years. Possibly, probably even.. but maybe not. How are you going to know without f*cking up yer own wee noggin? I'm just wondering what you're thinking of doing to get on with your day? x
Author YellowShark Posted September 17, 2010 Author Posted September 17, 2010 Possibly, probably even.. but maybe not. How are you going to know without f*cking up yer own wee noggin? My guess is probably not, and most likely she'll have the MM over for dinner, and then have sex with him in our old bed. I'm just wondering what you're thinking of doing to get on with your day? x Well the day started off with a bump because the first thing I thought of when I woke up was - "GAWD, today would have been our 7th anniversary together." Then the day progressed into what my new life is without her. Rebuilding and moving on. My son is with me this weekend so he keeps me occupied, and we have lots of fun together. Sadly he misses his step-mother since it's been only 3.5 months since I walked out, but I know that will pass and he'll adjust.
mickleb Posted September 17, 2010 Posted September 17, 2010 Then the day progressed into what my new life is without her. Rebuilding and moving on. I think someone needs to make the most of their evening and have a blast. They deserve it. Carpe diem and all that sh:te. x
ohno89 Posted September 18, 2010 Posted September 18, 2010 I'm glad you seem to be have a positive outlook.. cheaters suck ass, who the **** invented them?!
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