RisingAgain Posted September 17, 2010 Posted September 17, 2010 well its been getting easier then the other day i made a mistake of going to his face book page only to see that he and his ex have been communicating on each others walls. Nothing personal but just to get back at me, because he usually inboxes or texts her. This was one of our major fights. I broke nc and asked him to stop trying to hurt me. He said there was nothing to hide. Im in such pain because now i feel like a serial stalker always looking at thier walls to see wat they say to each other. I cant believe that a man who said he loved me can treat me in such a cruel manner even though he tells me he loves me and cares for me. Help :-(
Don Ho Posted September 17, 2010 Posted September 17, 2010 Simple block or delete him as a friend. You'll be better off.
skydiveaddict Posted September 17, 2010 Posted September 17, 2010 Simple block or delete him as a friend. You'll be better off. Agreed. I think fb is absolute poison when it comes to break ups. You're always gonna be curious about your ex. And checking his fb is just more tears for you. Don't do it
Leandro Posted September 17, 2010 Posted September 17, 2010 Yea block him. I actually deactivated mine!
sugarmomma Posted September 17, 2010 Posted September 17, 2010 I agree w everyone else. After while you become a glutton for punishment since it is a form of self torture. He isn't doing anything to you, you're doing it to yourself. You have to take responsibility for your pain and stopping it. You can do it. (((HUGS)))
james3232 Posted September 18, 2010 Posted September 18, 2010 Try the block feature, it works like a charm.
skydiveaddict Posted September 18, 2010 Posted September 18, 2010 Just get rid of your facebook account. I deleted mine... FB has made life difficult for a lot of people during a breakup. It's a self-torture machine. Plus, just deleting it gives them no way to haunt you, you always remain an enigma because they can never find you on it. You are no where to be seen. Stay away from it! Very wise words
Banker Chick Posted September 18, 2010 Posted September 18, 2010 You don't have to delete your whole FB though. Just block the person and it will prevent you from seeing them too. It won't even allow you to search for them and vice versa. I found this very effective in the first couple weeks of the break up.
Sheppy99 Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 I refuse to put gf's on my facebook or ex's for this simple reason. It's easier to avoid finding out hurtful info after a break up if they aren't on your FB. I am not a big fan of FB to begin with anyways but I definitely won't put a gf on my FB list. They should be secure enough to know they are the main piece in my life at that time that if they need validation and security to be on my list? I don't wanna be with that person anyways. I actually declined one of my ex's when we were dating, lol. I said really you're with me all the time, why do you need to be on my FB list? It'll be easier for everyone if we ever broke up, you won't be tempted to find out what I'm up to or vice versa and we both move on more smoothly. She agreed.
D-Lish Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 I cant believe that a man who said he loved me can treat me in such a cruel manner even though he tells me he loves me and cares for me. Help :-( He can only treat you in such a manner if you allow it. Step up- say no, don't lament about it, do something about it and change it. Take yourself out of the dynamic.
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