shadowplay Posted September 16, 2010 Posted September 16, 2010 It's weird, I didn't think I'd get here so fast, but I have NO love or care left for him. None. I feel a twinge of hurt and anger when I think of him, but that twinge is fading into indifference and casual disgust. It's hard for to relate to or even remember what was so upsetting when he dumped me in anything but an intellectual sense. I was devastated at the time, mind you, as is obvious by my thread trail. I actually thought I might never get over him, and I'd be trapped in some personal hell for years. It's been five months btw. I Does this mean I never really loved him? Or just that his terrible behavior during and post breakup managed to completely tarnish my image of him? I think in general that I crash hard after a breakup, but once I get over somebody, I really get over them, and the transition from being crushed to semi normal happens pretty fast. Anyone else experience this?
Gdunkman Posted September 17, 2010 Posted September 17, 2010 May be I do experience similar feelings as you shadowplay. It's been four months since she moved from our place and two months since our official breakup, and it was real period of grief all this time for me, I was thinking of her 24/7, had emotional rollercoaster and other things LSers describe. Now, for several days I feel relief and I can't say how happy am I as I understood it will pass. I had support from friends, but only in form of spending time together, they are happy with their relations, so they wasn't sure what to advise, they just said "everything's gonna be alright" and "you will find a better girl someday". I think I had a real support from the book "Surviving after the loss of a love" I have recently read. Unfortunately I haven't found another book, written by Susan Anderson which other people recommend.
marmaliade Posted September 17, 2010 Posted September 17, 2010 Maybe it'just those quite days before the storm? I have them after four months of break up, but wouldnt say I got over him..
Author shadowplay Posted September 17, 2010 Author Posted September 17, 2010 Maybe it'just those quite days before the storm? I have them after four months of break up, but wouldnt say I got over him.. Knowing myself, I doubt it. Once I'm over somebody, the feeling never returns.
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The-Zen-Warrior Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 shadowplay : Are you sure your "getting" or have "gotten" over him so fast? Quote... I feel a twinge of hurt and anger when I think of him! I don't know, but from some bone head divorce and separation book I have read, what you just said there the "hurt" and the "anger" are key words. I would feel it's safe to say that you may have gotten over the bulk of serious and important "emotions" and "feelings" of the break up, but those key words above tell me there is still something that remains! This is just my opinion, subject to being either wrong or right or somewhere in between.
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