bob_333 Posted September 16, 2010 Posted September 16, 2010 (edited) Yougogirl wrote: "Men don't understand a woman's drive to self-destruct. It comes on when we feel too powerful. Then the power is scary. If we don't escape it, it might beat us. If we become all about our power, without a shoulder to lean on= intimacy, the warning goes off in our brain--self-destruct, because something is out of balance here." Could a woman or man please explain this in more detail, I just got dumped by my girlfriend, and she's acting up - I think like the above except that she's aiming it at me rather than simply self destructing, in the relationship I was dominant, and on a few occassions didn't treat her as well as I should have - after and during the breakup I became needy, everything I did or said during the break up seemed to annoy her, I told her half way through the breakup that if she didn't want me then I needed a clean break from her to clear my head, and I think that quite upset her, a week ago (and w eeke after I told her I would go NC) she sent me nice text asking how I was, but I wasn't very communicative - I mean what should I feel I've just been dumped, popped in to drop off a few last things and she was as cold as ice with me, almost angry - like wtf, she asked for it, why get annoyed or act narky because of what she wants ? Whats going on here with her head ? I know I wasn't always what I should have been during the relationship, but its like she's giving it back double now. Edited September 16, 2010 by bob_333
JamieA Posted September 18, 2010 Posted September 18, 2010 I have no idea wth that quote means. It doesn't make sense to me. As far as your X. Forget about her. She broke up with you. I don't understand how people break up and then want to contact the person and act all nice. I think it's cruel. Every time I've broken up with someone, I am done. I don't look back. I wish you a speedy recovery from the breakup. Take Care.
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