Septhy Posted September 16, 2010 Posted September 16, 2010 So I got cheated by someone and ironically she got cheated by the one she was cheating with...but I don't want her to experince what I"ve been through from her. It's heartbreaking for me. What can I do?
PegNosePete Posted September 16, 2010 Posted September 16, 2010 That's karma. Forget about her, and move on with your life.
bentnotbroken Posted September 16, 2010 Posted September 16, 2010 Sounds like really unselfish love to me. That's sweet. But we all have to pay for our actions one way or the other. What do you want to do?
Author Septhy Posted September 16, 2010 Author Posted September 16, 2010 But it's not. I was honestly angry at the guy who cheated on her.
Maggotface Posted September 16, 2010 Posted September 16, 2010 You seem like a good guy, you don't need to feel sorry for her, this will teach her a lesson. She knows how it feels and maybe (but probably not) she won't cheat on anyone else in the future.
misternoname Posted September 16, 2010 Posted September 16, 2010 That's pretty twisted...hell, she got what she deserved. Move on...despite dissenting opinions by many on this board, I'm a firm believer in the old "once a cheater, always a cheater." Why waste precious time on someone you'll never be able to fully trust?
2long Posted September 16, 2010 Posted September 16, 2010 But it's not. I was honestly angry at the guy who cheated on her. But you're not angry at her for cheating on you?? I admire you for caring about her feelings after what she did 2 you, but it's really her business 2 learn what she can from this experience. And it's your job 2 find a way 2 move past the need you seem 2 have 2 "rescue" her. -ol' 2long
Fight4Me Posted September 17, 2010 Posted September 17, 2010 If you really love her, you will allow her to experience the full-on pain that comes from being betrayed. How do we learn not to touch a hot stove? Because we find out it HURTS! How do we learn not to play with matches with gasoline and a lighter? Most of us know it ends in disaster, but some have to actually experience that trauma in order to reevaluate their thinking. She sounds like a very good candidate for counseling, and the most loving thing you can do is step far back from her if/when she receives it. Don't even think about taking her back unless she is able to come back to you a repaired woman. Otherwise, get ready to wash, rinse, and repeat.
painfullyobvious Posted September 17, 2010 Posted September 17, 2010 Funny how people who cheat together are surprised when they are victims of the same behavior they once engaged in. If someone is going to cheat with you, they will cheat on you. Just a matter of time
Author Septhy Posted September 18, 2010 Author Posted September 18, 2010 So....umm how will this assure that 'she' won't get cheated again?
Bryanp Posted September 18, 2010 Posted September 18, 2010 Sorry but you sound like her father. There are no guarantees in life. When people have bad experiences hopefully they will learn from them. If not it will continue again. It is time for you to let go and find someone else. It is unhealthy what you are doing. You are not her her father or therapist.
spriggig Posted September 18, 2010 Posted September 18, 2010 So....umm how will this assure that 'she' won't get cheated again? WTH? Lock her away in your basement so she has no contact with anyone? You CAN'T ensure that she won't be cheated on again, you have no control over this. How do you imagine that you do?
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