BeatrixKiddo Posted September 16, 2010 Posted September 16, 2010 Hi, I'm the one who told my ex I wanted to not have any contact nearly two weeks ago, I was going to do 'no contact' but I broke it twice. He broke up with me a month ago. As he was messaging me and asking me to spend time with him as 'friends', I told him about two weeks ago to please not contact me unless it's for reconciliation. I told him we both needed time and space to heal and move on, and I'll contact him when and if I'm ready to be a friend to him (which I don't want, so why I even said that...). However, a week into it, I sent him the text, "How are you?" and we messaged back and forth a bit (he's always responsive to any contact I make). Then two days ago, he knew I was working a late night shift, and sent a message telling me, "I know you don't want me seeing you, but I'd be happy to bring you something to eat. Just putting it out there". Then yesterday I initiated contact, again (which you can read about here if you like http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t245967/). I need to do 'no contact' again, and my question is, do I owe him anything to repeat what I told him about not contacting me again unless to discuss getting back together? I wonder if I've given the impression that I'm ok with being friends now, and he can contact me? Or does it even matter? Just drop off the face of the earth? I would feel bad, honestly, because I initiated those two conversations.
NewlyBroken Posted September 16, 2010 Posted September 16, 2010 Hi Beatrix (cool name btw), I say go NC again; just drop off the face of the earth. Let him sit with his decision to break up. It's very important to your healing process that you break it off completely (I know, easier said than done). And believe me, I know it hurts like hell, but it is for the best. Sure you broke NC twice, but that's okay; just keep trying:) And please don't feel bad about anything, he didn't feel bad when he broke up with you. Cheers, -NB
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