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Going on a date with ex... whats your thoughts?


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Hey everyone. Aquariousman83 here. New to the forums but have lurked for awhile.So my situation...Got with gf back in April. Wonderful mom with two kids. Things went extremely fast. (I'm not one for going fast ever normally) I helped her get a new place and started living there.Fast forward to today and I'm back at my old place. Found out that she was feeling smoothered. Long story short it involved a mishap on my end. So basically some weeks went on after I moved back to my place and finally she ended it when I pushed her to talk about stuff. I was going nuts just not knowing.So its been a couple weeks. I've had some very basic communicating from her but on Sunday we did have a LONG two hour conversation about everything. It felt like the conversation we SHOULD have had when things went south. So I invited her to dinner out of town Friday and she said yes. So my question is, do you guys thing she is willing to give this another chance or thinking it might just be her confused and doing it just because? I mean the day we had the convo we hugged and kisses. Yesterday I had to drop something off for her son I had. Hugged and kissed. I was thinking that I shouldn't talk to her again now till I go to pick her up on Friday.Though I figured that if after Friday she isn't a bit more receptive to communicating or talking, that I will back off and let her contact me. I know I surely can't do all the work.

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I wouldnt talk to her until Friday. Let her think about whats going on.

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I agree with the previous posters.

 

Has she recently become a single mother or has she always been one? I'm asking because I wonder if she's recently ended a relationship and just needs time to recover from that. If that is the case, she is being very smart in giving herself time to recover.

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Things went extremely fast. (I'm not one for going fast ever normally) Found out that she was feeling smoothered. she ended it when I pushed her to talk about stuff. we did have a LONG two hour conversation about everything. It felt like the conversation we SHOULD have had when things went south.

 

Well Bro, you went too fast and YOU had no self control. It is your job to apply the brakes no matter what a woman does. You brought up a conversation about the two of you? Bad move. Then you had a two hour conversation? That's a good way to not smother her.

 

Honestly. I think you need to NOT go out to dinner this Friday. Yes, I said not go. You need to back way, way off if you want a chance. You need time to clear your head, get less emotional, think clearly and give her some time and space.

 

I would break the date and tell her that you need a little time to think things over first. Do not tell her you're not going to be in contact. MAYBE the following week you can meet her, if you're in the place where you're not going to get verbal diarhhea and blow it again. If you want any shot, I would suggest you take my advice.

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