Jc4566 Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 Hi, first time posting on here, I'm looking for some advice really, I'm 23 years old I'm quite shy and never had a girlfriend before. Its kind of a long complicated story so I'll try to keep it as short as possible. I work with my older brother for a scientific company (he got me the job), we've been working in the same department for about six months. Up until 2 months ago we worked with a girl who was our boss at the time until she got transferred to somewhere else. My brother has been working with her for 2 years and has had a crush on her all that time. About two weeks after I first started, my brother (who is also shy) asked me to send her a message on Facebook telling her how he felt. She said she was sorry and she had never seen my brother that way but wanted to remain friends and that she was our boss so it seemed inappropriate. Since then she has been talking to me a lot and I think (I'm almost 100% certain now) she likes me but she hasn't told me because of what she said to my brother about being our boss. I myself am crazy over this girl (she is also my best friend) and if it wasn't for my brother I probably would have asked her out on a date by now. Anyway she got transferred 2 months ago so she is no longer our boss and I only see her at break and lunch time in the canteen (I rarely see her on her own). She also recently deleted her Facebook page for some unknown reason so I cant contact her outside of work. My brother (who is 24) is leaving the company next week to go to university to hopefully find a better job. To make matters worse I think someone has been spreading rumors that I am dating another girl I work with (who I'm not interested in). I think my crush is getting jealous of that as she has been acting strangely towards me this last week ignoring me and hugging other guys when I am near her. I have lost so much sleep thinking about her, my brother also liking her doesn't help. Even if she wont be my girlfriend I still want to be friends so now I'm in a situation where I don't know what to say to her, or just whether to keep my mouth shut for fear of making things worse. I just don't know what to do, any advice would be greatly appreciated and feel free to ask any questions.
neophreak Posted September 18, 2010 Posted September 18, 2010 Yeah it's hard to control your emotions/feelings for someone but I personally would not pursue anything with her out of respect for my brother's feelings. Not only that, she doesn't appear to be interested in more than a friendship (with you or your bro) based on what you've written.
Rashad Posted September 18, 2010 Posted September 18, 2010 I would not approach her if by doing that I'll hurt my brother... relationships do not last. I think you should talk to your brother candidly.
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