tornandmarried Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 NC with stbxw for 2 weeks now, very low contact before that, she actually threw in the towel and said bye have a nice life, then i ignored her next few days when she was asking me to call her and now shes doing something thats very strange....shes going through my facebook and myspace sending friend requests to people i know, including ex girlfriends and my daughter, her mom, stepdad, halfsister....theyre telling me theyre getting the requests, some accept some decline, but she isnt saying anything to them , yet...why do u think this is??? p.s. i filed divorce papers last week:D
YellowShark Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 yet...why do u think this is??? Divide and conquer. She is trying to rally the troops against you by "befriending" them. But doing it via Facebook and Myspace is ridiculously high school, and frankly highly immature.
tank Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 You need to be tough, I know it will be hard, myself and many others have been there. You need to stop using facebook. You can suspend your account and reactivate it later. Send a msg to all of your friends telling them you are doing this. You can start a new account if you really need to. If you dont stand firm and let her know you are done, then she will continue to stalk you on facebook etc. I tried every way I could to fix my marriage, to be honest, I would still be trying but I just cant take the rejection any longer. I use facebook everyday to stay in touch with family from far away. Now I have to use email. I shut down my facebook account as my ex was doing the same thing and keeping tabs on me. I removed that oppourtunity for her to do so. Be strong and continue the NC and if you are filing for divorce then do it and put this chapter of your life behind you. If you are still uncertain of the divorce then suspend the account until you know. Maybe you will decide that divorce isnt right for you. Good luck and keep us posted
Author tornandmarried Posted September 15, 2010 Author Posted September 15, 2010 yeah, the whole thing is unsettling...i was a good man to her and she was lying and cheating the whole relationship and when its time to split shes like out to get me or something...i tired hard to fix it as well and all it did was make things worse....but i guess that how cheaters experience heartache, through all the guilt
heartbrokensj Posted September 16, 2010 Posted September 16, 2010 yeah, the whole thing is unsettling...i was a good man to her and she was lying and cheating the whole relationship and when its time to split shes like out to get me or something...i tired hard to fix it as well and all it did was make things worse....but i guess that how cheaters experience heartache, through all the guilt i can so relate tornandmarried, I was so good to my husband as well. We had a shouting match 2 weeks ago after I caught him lying about somethings and he angrily protested he wanted divorce... i said fine you go ahead and file and asked him to send back somethings he took when he left ( he moved to another state)...he sent them back but has called me everyday to ask if i have recieve the items although he has the tracking number. When he sent me things in the mail of equal importance, he was never so dead set on checking daily if i rec'd them. His behavior is odd too...i do not understand him and don't know if i want to try to anymore.
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