ouch1121 Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 So it's been almost a week since we've had no contact. Last Wednesday we got into an argument because he was going to closing day at the race tracks and didn't invite me. I was upset and told him so. He told me I was so dramatic and never called me again. Things have been rocky for a long time but for the last month I've had a gut instinct he was dating someone else. It seems I may be right. Facebook shows you the world. Of course there was a picture taken of him and guess what another woman who he had his arm around. That's why I wasn't invited and that must be the other woman he's been talking to. I'm sick. I spent 7 years on this man and he can just toss me aside like a piece of trash because he met another woman. I am so tempted to call him or text him and call him out on it. I know he won't admit it. I'm so tempted to contact her via facebook to let her know what a scumbag he is and that he was dating me this whole time he was trying to talk to her. What do I do that's not psycho? I'm so angry right now and hurt. I sacrificed so much for this man and gave and gave and gave to him and this is how he treats me? Really? So now that he's sure he has someone else he stops calling me? F*ck him! I hate him so much. Did he f*ck her while he was with me? Probably. I am physically sick at the idea of that. He waited out his birthday and let me take him to Vegas and spend all this money on him and then dumped me. This past week I've been crying my eyes out and hurt and he's happy that he's finally got rid of me so he can be with her. I want her to know what a sh*t head he is so she will dump his @ss and take away that happiness from him. Should I contact her or do I just walk away? Please help me.
Trovador Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 Let the dead rest, dear... it´s not worth and you convert yourself into what you are so eagerly condemning... Walk out of that relationship and cut your losses... or do you want him back while he **** another woman in odd days?
Author ouch1121 Posted September 15, 2010 Author Posted September 15, 2010 I don't want him back, I want to hurt him like he's hurt me. I want to ruin his new relationship by letting her know what a piece of crap he is. I'm sure she wouldn't appreciate knowing he was with me while he was striking something new with her. Is that so wrong! Why shouldn't I expose him for what he is?
Snugglepuss Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 I was in a similar situation and I went two months with no contact. I believe he carefully plotted to get rid of me. I actually caught him in the act, so I know he would have never told me the truth. Not sure how long he was screwing around on me for until I got really suspicious. I blocked his number during NC, so he emailed me every single day trying to get me back. He said all the things I wanted to hear. Told me he would make it up to me and cannot imagine not having me in his life and how he could not eat or sleep and was depressed when I was out of his life. Do not fall for it when he gets bored with her and tries getting you back. He will leave you again. I've learned my lesson the hard way and am now indifferent and have told myself that I do not want a future with someone like that. I will never give him another chance again even when he gives me the same song and dance. Not sure what/who he's doing now because I do not care to know or find out. Let him go.
Author ouch1121 Posted September 15, 2010 Author Posted September 15, 2010 I'm willing to let him go but I just want to expose him for who he is. Why shouldn't she know that he was screwing around with me while he was wooing her? It's almost about revenge right now in a way. She is what's making him happy and since he screwed with my, why shouldn't I screw with him. Why shouldn't I expose him for what he is and embarass him to her? and why should this other woman get her heart broken because he will cheat on her too. Why shouldn't I warn her now? He can go, but he should pay.
Trovador Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 Because somehow I think you are able not to eat the **** others are eating... let it go, don´t dehumanize (sp) yourself... show him what he just lost, a woman with class... do you think he is going to care if you ruin his fling? Well, after he gives you some **** for what you did, he won´t care... In any case, cool off a bit before doing something that might be very stupid...
Snugglepuss Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 What if she is aware of you and him? What if he has been telling her about how you're his ex and your relationship has been bad and all this other mumbo jumbo crap about how unhappy he was with you? Surprisingly, a lot of people do that and a lot of times, the other woman/man may be OK with it.
Author ouch1121 Posted September 15, 2010 Author Posted September 15, 2010 No I know he hasn't told her a thing about me because I know his style. He always wants to make himself look the best and he would not tell a new girl that he's in a relationship when he's trying to pursue her. I'm almost absolutely 100% percent certain she doesn't know about me. She should though don't you think?
Author ouch1121 Posted September 15, 2010 Author Posted September 15, 2010 Wow, I just looked at the picture a little more closely and it wasn't the race tracks. Complete lie. He went to the padres game with her. So it was planned not a spur of the moment thing. I so want to expose him. Tell me why I shouldn't? Please.
Author ouch1121 Posted September 15, 2010 Author Posted September 15, 2010 I understand what your saying and I don't want him back. I'm not trying to get him back but I want to expose him for who and what he is. He shouldn't get away with treating people this way. I want to expose him to this new woman so that she can make her own judgments about him but she should know the true him. I want him to be embarassed by his behavior and embarassed that she knows what he really is. If she still wants to be with him that's fine but I don't want him to be able to walk away with this thinking ha, he pulled one over on me and he got another woman in the process who thinks he's just a great guy. The way he let it end, he tried to make it seem like I was being over dramatic because I was hurt he didn't invite me to an event with him and his friends but in reality, it was all a lie. Why does he get to walk away scot free?
Recommended Posts