Advice for men and women who may be involved with those who are married.

[saintfrancis]

Originally posted by TigerEyes

I just had an urge awhile ago to let someone out there know....no matter how the husband describes her...you never know what she is really going thru, and what REALLY HAPPENED.

 

Amen to that! I have always believed the same thing, no matter wether I was involved with MM or not. Sometimes I have an overwhelming curiosity about what HER side of the story is. I would love to ask her, to tell you the truth, but I would never do it, for a multitude of reasons. It would be incredibly inappropriate, and, well, I just wouldn't. But boy would I love to be a fly on the wall when she's in the room. Who knows, maybe the facts and figures would match what he's already told me. I have no reason to believe he made stuff up about her, but who knows.

 

I'm really sorry to hear your pain TigerEyes. I know that probably sounds shallow coming from me, a former OW. But I do mean it. From what you've said, I really hope you find the strength to leave this man. I don't know you but I can tell you with utmost confidence that I think you are WAY better than what he is dishing out.

 

Don't worry about "going off." That's what this forum is for!

[jane00]

Originally posted by befuddled11

I don't have any sympathy whatsoever for OM/OW/married people having affairs, for whatever type/degree of pain or suffering they encounter or endure. Why? Because you'd have to live under a rock to not know that getting involved with someone who's married,

 

You don't have to "live under a rock" to know that you're getting involved with someone who's married. I just found out that my nine month relationship is with a married man. He's been married over 25 years, and has three children. Am I stupid for not seeing the signs? No I am not. He is a respected surgeon in my area, our relationship was not hidden from anyone....except his wife and kids. How is this possible????? His family lives in Canada.

 

No doubt some of his traveling can now be explained as "trips to see the family". However, his profession, and his distance from his family created the perfect means of deception. This forum is important for the OW. We all become the other woman for different reasons; nonetheless, our emotions are the same.

[unluckylady]

I agree with Midori. Trust will forever be an issue.