Interesting POV....

[datura_noir]

http://www.gettinbetter.com/casanova.html

 

http://http://www.gettinbetter.com/casanova.html

 

 

It's a long read, but worth it.

[freestyle]

I've read many of her articles..........great stuff, very insightful.

 

(for men and women both....)

[GorillaTheater]

I'm apparently one of those people who can look at something like a BPD checklist and think "hmmm, me. Me. Me again ...." But I suppose if I really was BPD, I'd be in complete denial about it. A conundrum.

[bohogirl]

Casanova often uses a long-term relationship or marriage as his springboard for flirtations and conquests. Without this relatively stable 'home base,' he's usually at odds in the world of women, due to his insecurities. His emotional development is stunted, so he's basically a pre-adolescent. His devoted wife or lover represents the safety/security of the mother he never had; still very young, he can't navigate life totally on his own--so he's reassured/comforted when she's at home waiting, when he returns from escapades with others.

 

 

 

If you catch your man cheating and call him out, he'll probably deny it 'till the cows come home--even when you're smelling her on your bed sheets, or finding strands of her hair in his truck! The borderline male will concoct all sorts of lies to throw you off his scent, when he's screwing another woman. There will be out of town business trips, nights out with "the guys," lunches or dinners with clients, etc., that you'll have instincts about, but you won't confront. Females are highly intuitive creatures, and I have always believed that a wife's gotta be blind, deaf and dumb, to not know what she already knows. There may be myriad reasons why she doesn't want to rock the boat, but she senses when someone else is messing with her meat.

 

 

 

You guys could have some real knock-down, drag-out fights about this, and you might kick him out or he could leave for awhile, only to crawl back with his tail between his legs, begging for reprieve from emotional exile. He may promise never to do it again, and you'll want to believe him--but remember that story about the scorpion and the frog? This is his nature, he's lacking in character, and he's not gonna change (in your lifetime, anyway).

 

 

If you are the wife of a Borderline or Narcissist, and you've finally decided to leave (after trying for years to make your marriage work), he'll likely collapse into inconsolable depression. No matter how many infidelities he's had, your husband's childhood abandonment trauma will get reactivated--and he'll be howling at the moon in shame, for months afterward. What men never seem to comprehend, is that when a woman's given everything she can, there's no turning back. For better or worse, when she's finally done, she's done.

[TaraMaiden]

I fell asleep halfway through the second paragraph....

people do so like to pigeonhole other people.....