AlwaYs257 Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 About 2 years ago I confessed to feelings I had for this girl,feelings i had for her over 1 year beforehand,and she told me she felt the same,a week later we were together,and we spent 11 months of pure bliss,until 2 weeks prior to the anniversarry,she calls me up and says it's over,not really giving any good reason except that we didnt really talk much anymore and drifted,looking back at it now,i know that to be true,and to be my fault,a week after the break up I find out she's off with another guy,one of my friends,who she got close to,at this point I was absolutely torn apart,and after finding out,both me and her went into a stage of NC,this lasted about a month untill she greeted me for my bday,which is what i wanted,as sign that she still cared. From that point we got into contact and out of contact,until I assesed the situation and the time spent alone made me realise how much she ment to me,and how much it ment for me to try for her,so about 3 months of going out of my way to make her wake up,see she let college to pursue a career,so she was at home most of the time,and none of her so called 'friends' made an effort to really see her,but i did,amongst alot of other sweet things i did for her,so anyway after 3 months,she woke up from it and we gave it another shot.. It was a month of happyness IMO,I took her out places,did more couply things etc,all in all a more gorwn up relationship,but nearing the end of that month,its as if she just stopped trying,hardly said ILY first,had nothing sweet to say to me,could'nt find the time for me,but we talked it over and it was all good,or so i thought,in august she attended a camp for a week,now i saw her the week before she went even up to the day before she left,and everything was still all A-OK. She gets back from camp,and she totally ignores me the first 2 days,saying she was too busy to contact me,on the evening of her 2nd day back,not having heard from her since,she pops a 'Dear John' letter through my letter box,bringing up how we've had good times,but it feels like i'm suffocating her,and she cant be herself around me,those two points were the ones that killed me the most,as i've known her for 3 years,and all I wanted was for her to put in effort,due to what happened the previous time she left me.. But it doesnt end there,a week after the 2nd break up,I found out she got together with a guy she met at camp,a tad cliche aint it?,he broke off with his Gf a day before she broke off with me. :/ And here i am,my head spinning and wondering WTF just happened,she left me for another guy yet again,and idk where i stand in all this now,are they in a double rebound? or could this actually work? I just dont understand what's going on in her mind. Could anyone give me some insight? Btw I KNOW im better than this and deserve better etc,but there's always that one person you cant give up on in life,and i found that in her,i'd stand by her no matter what,and i'm not naive in claming so. Thanks
Billie The Puppet Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 Trust me I know what you mean about the one that's worth fighting for. However being the dumpee we can not chase. So the only fight we can do is NC.
Author AlwaYs257 Posted September 14, 2010 Author Posted September 14, 2010 Trust me I know what you mean about the one that's worth fighting for. However being the dumpee we can not chase. So the only fight we can do is NC. Thanks man,How effective is NC? Coz as we speak she's with that other guy,I've just disappeared from her life atm,hoping to resurface around DEC.
PegNosePete Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 there's always that one person you cant give up on in life Yes there is, it is YOURSELF. She has been playing you for a fool. You need to have some self-respect and ditch her for good. She will carry on playing this game with you for years and years if she can, just discarding you whenever someone better comes along, and going back to you when it doesn't work out. Is that what you want to be your whole life, a back-up plan?
Author AlwaYs257 Posted September 14, 2010 Author Posted September 14, 2010 Yeah man,i get your point. It would just be good to know what's going through her head. Since i've known her not alot of guys paid that sort of attention to her,but always thought i saw something there,and i stood by her. And she leaves me everytime something 'supposedly' better comes up. She coudnt even bring herself to tell me face to face. Maybe it is worth just closing the book this time,but I thought I was so sure,aint there anyway to bounce back from this? Idk to what extent NC will do,and no one ever has any advice for a 3rd/4th/5th chance.
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