jude007 Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 Ok - so if your read previous posts, you will see I've had a tough time of things, its been hard to forgive and forget, to understand why someone you did everything for would walk out of your life..... you are left with confidence issues, self defeat, you burn yourself literally - you cannot escape the memories..... I was still toiling with things up until a month ago - in a bad way, lack of sleep, my work was being affected, I even had a skin issues on my neck and arms that result from stress.... Then all of a sudden my day to day hurt and anguish changed, when I met a girl who was visiting the city I was partying in. I met her in an Irish them bar - we had the most amazing night - partied, got on so well - she was so complimentary towards me. It was crazy..... we were so comfortable. We exchanged numbers - I met her the next day to take her out for a meal - it was all good. She returned home the next day, txt and said she wanted to see me again - I thought that was it - (she is an hours flight away). So for a week or so we comunicate, she calls, we txt, we looked at flights for her to come back they were way expensive - so I just took the plunge and booked them for her! she came up we had the best weekend I have possibly had with anyone in recent years. Yeh its a month in, and yeh she lives an hour away - im taking each day as it comes - there is hope there - im not saying its going to last forever - but you learn alot in times being single - what will be WILL be - I do not expect anything from this person, other than what has been happening. Its fine, im now fine, and NOW realise that I was holding out for something that was never going to work with my ex - it just took me to see that - yeh I maybe miss her, but I dont miss the arguments, the jeliousy, the ungratefulness. If anything else, this new girl, has inspired me, its a big world out there, maybe its time to start learning more from it, than the bubble I have been stuck in for almost 8 years. Ive risen from the ashes (well sort of) - Have belief in yourself....
Am4Real Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 Ive risen from the ashes (well sort of) - Have belief in yourself.... First of all congratulations – it’s good to hear you are happy. Go slow will be the common advice and just have a good time. The only words of caution would be this: if you find yourself comparing her with your EX on a continual basis you’re likely rebounding and would be best to use extraordinary caution at this point, even contemplating passing on this lovely girl if there is a chance you are continuing to heal and could find yourself looking beyond this relationship. It might be very damaging to this innocent “friend”. Again, just a caution statement and not necessarily reality. Enjoy your times together! Best wishes.
Author jude007 Posted September 20, 2010 Author Posted September 20, 2010 I'm not sure what happen new girl is miles away - but speak everyday.. It's all a bit crazy.. Does long distance work? We are in constant contact ... But she hasn't committed to coming to see me again just talks the talk. My ex contacted me x2 - never heard from her in long time - then bam twice - all I feel is hurt and what she did...
Ajax Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 Hey Jude... Sound like you took a sad song and made it... better
Trovador Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 ^ Good one, mate... Congratulations, man, enjoy every moment and hopefully apply the lessons you learnt in your previous relationship... and of course, walk don't run...
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