Delacy Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 My SO has started to go hot and cold on me with her effection for me, it seems very cold at the minute and i cant think of a reason why?? she used to tell me she loves/adores me everyday, and now i am the one trying to squeeze it out of her! she calls me less too. I have asked her if she is ok, anything to tell me etc she says no she is fine!!?? do you think she has changed her mind about me but doesnt want to tell me? *Real confussed*
Omei Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 Have you guys met before? Maybe the relationship is just starting to settle for her and shes in a comfort zone where she just doesn't crush anymore and you are not. Maybe she's got a lot on her mind or shes busier lately. You should talk to her about how you feel maybe some of your questions will be answered she might not even realize anything is different for you. But yeah have a talk with her.
Guitarjeff Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 Same thing happening with my wonderful woman. It's no big deal. As mine explained, she is simply secure and comfortable in our love and doesn't feel the need for so much fairytale love at this point. She says she feels exactly the same sbout me and even that she likes the secure and comfortable feeling even better than the fairytale stuff. She wants to feel that our love is more established and that makes her feel good. I had a hard time dealing with that but now after a few months of that I can see what she means and her love is as strong as ever, she's just expressing it in a different way that makes her feel more secure amd comfortable. Communication is key, ask your girl exactly what you did here. See if it isn't the exact same thing, I bet it is. If so, that's fine. You be yourself and let her be herself.
Eeyore79 Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 Are you giving anything back? When she showed you affection, did you reciprocate? She used to call you, but did you call her and say romantic things? If she's the one who's always been calling you, and saying romantic things, and being affectionate, but she never gets anything back... well, eventually she's going to feel like an idiot for giving and giving when you're not giving anything back, and she's going to cut off the supply. If you start acting in a more loving way towards her, you may find that she starts being nice to you again.
Author Delacy Posted September 14, 2010 Author Posted September 14, 2010 Yes i gave her back just as much as she gave to me.
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