Dave1982 Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 my ex-girlfriend left me about 2 months ago...not a word.changed her number and everything...i sent her an email asking what was going on she never responded so i never sent another one..about 2 weeks ago she sent me an email telling me she was thinkin about me all the time and she was with this new guys that she claims she dosn't to be with she is only with him to forget about me.shes says she only thinks of me when shes with him but is scared to get back with me and scared to leave him..i sent her an email back sayin that i was trying to move on..so she responded with another that was a little crazy i guess. next thing i know shes at my house the same day..we hang out we kiss hold each other blah blah...then she leaves to go back home to him.and then shes back the next day..and we go further then kissing...then i don't hear from her for about 4 days...and she tells me it was a mistake..well a week after that she shows back up,she claims she wants to be friends because she wants me in her life...i tell her no...we shouldn't ever see each other again as long as you are with him....so she start crying and begs me to change my mind..so of course i break because i do love her and can't stand the thought of her not being in my life.she wanted to stay in town with that night but her cars broke so she borrwed his to come see me...she says she never cared for anyone like me and she loves me and the guys shes with is cold and shallow but she is scared to leave him...anyways should i stick to my guns this time and say me or him? or never talk to me again or what..any advice would do...thanks
Faruiza Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 Hi Dave1982 Your girl is wanting to have her cake and eat it. She wants to be with you but she isn't totally sure, so she's seeing this other guy too. Maybe she's just not being strong and is afraid of making the decision - it is hard cutting someone out of your life. But if she cares for you, she should be decisive one way or the other. Because it;s madness what she's doing! Driving to your house in his car - that makes me cross on your behalf, you shouldn't stand for that. Really you shouldn't. But the quick answer is yes, it's him or you. That's what you must say to her. Then take it from there, but don't let her mess you about. Hope that helps and you feel better soon.
Ajax Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 Tough spot, sorry about your situation. For s's and g's, let's say hypothetically you give her the ultimatum and she picks you. Can you really trust that she's not still seeing him behind your back? Obviously she's seeing you now behind his back, and we have no idea what she's saying about you to him. She could be saying that you're the shallow and cold one. It sound like she wants to have her cake... and eat yours
Author Dave1982 Posted September 13, 2010 Author Posted September 13, 2010 ya thanks guys...thats what pretty much everyone has told me i figured i would go thru a diferrant source and well yall said the same thing lol...ugh now to try it again...told her once,and broke...ugh...gonna stay single for awhile after this one.not in the mood to do it again anytime soon...thanx
Faruiza Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 Good, well, have a holiday from relationships and then you'll be ready for the next one. But any signs of weirdness you'll be well prepared to say see ya later! And I doubt you'll get this again, you're well rid of this situation. All best to you
Author Dave1982 Posted September 14, 2010 Author Posted September 14, 2010 well im still struggling with how to go about it. do i email her telling her me or him...or face to face...last time i broke when i saw her,but i prefer to do it in person...but im scared ill change my mind again,but i can't go on like this
Darren Steez Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 What the **** is wrong with you? Dont you have any sense of self worth? This girl coldly leaves you, changes her number and moves in with another man..what does that tell you? Do you think this happened out of the blue or she was cheating for a while and decided you were not good enough, actually not man enough and she upped and left. So even after all this she still feeds you some bull about she's thinking about you all the time, come one, really if you're dumb enough to believe it then keep taking her back while she "borrows" his car to come and cheat on him with you. You're sitting there umming and ahhing, should I take her call, should I do this or that, meanwhile she's bonking this guy senseless and has you on the side..in case she needs a place to stay for the night. If you're such a loser that you continue to swallow this tripe then go ahead and keep seeing other, otherwise run and keep on running this woman is poison!!
Author Dave1982 Posted September 15, 2010 Author Posted September 15, 2010 wow i always knew the truth can be hard to swallow,but hell you just force fed it to me....which i needed...you are right. i alrdy decided today i was done.thanx again to all you people.this is the only relationship i have ever been tore up about....time to move on
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