Lizzie60 Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 My young MM called me late last night, he had left me a message earlier in the afternoon to call him.. I thought.. 'hummm.. that's unusual, a Sunday'... Anyway... he got busted... he has no idea how she found out.. I guess she had him followed.. She was right besides him when he called last night.. she asked him to call me ... to end the affair... I called him this morning to know more.. he said he wants to try to be faithful... he's got too much to lose.. his kids.. She knows he came to my house 2 days before she gave birth.. she also knows he was at my house 2 weeks ago.. on a Saturday... Oh well... I wished him well.. and told him he should be a responsible dad... and a good H... He said 'We'll get together again... in heaven'..
Mimolicious Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 Oh dayum. But why would you call him this am to know more? I thought you could have no sentimental connection to your MM's (no pun intended, just going by what you write). Or just curiosity was killing you? What about if he gets busted about this recent call? What then?
YellowShark Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 She knows he came to my house 2 days before she gave birth.. she also knows he was at my house 2 weeks ago.. on a Saturday... Oh well... I wished him well.. and told him he should be a responsible dad... and a good H... That's great advice Lizzie60. I think the children deserve a father - (role model) - who is not sleeping with other women while their mother is pregnant. I hope he and his wife can remain together after discovering this affair and give the children a healthy happy environment to grow up in. All the best.
jj33 Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 Lizzie that is so bittersweet. You really liked that one didnt you... Hope you are OK. You handled it with grace, as usual
Owl Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 He said 'We'll get together again... in heaven'.. Yep...unless his wife gets there first or til she shows up later and he's busted again! Getting busted sucks, but hopefully they'll be smart and use this situation to repair what's missing in their marriage. Hope this works out the best it can for all three of you.
Author Lizzie60 Posted September 13, 2010 Author Posted September 13, 2010 Oh dayum. But why would you call him this am to know more? I thought you could have no sentimental connection to your MM's (no pun intended, just going by what you write). Or just curiosity was killing you? What about if he gets busted about this recent call? What then? As you say.. I am not sentimentally attached to this guy, although I like him a lot. I knew, by the way, he talked last night and by what he said to me.. that she was right next to him.. it wasn't too clear.. and I didn't want to ask him any questions.. He won't get busted with this last call.. as I called from a public phone. He was calmer this morning.. and could talk more about it..
Author Lizzie60 Posted September 13, 2010 Author Posted September 13, 2010 That's great advice Lizzie60. I think the children deserve a father - (role model) - who is not sleeping with other women while their mother is pregnant. I hope he and his wife can remain together after discovering this affair and give the children a healthy happy environment to grow up in. All the best. Yes I know.. He adores his kids.. but to be totally honest.. I don,t think he CAN be faithful... but I think this time, she scared the H*ll out of him.. and he will stop for a while.. but I don't think he will stay that faithful.. it will be extremely hard for him... and he knows it..
Author Lizzie60 Posted September 13, 2010 Author Posted September 13, 2010 Lizzie that is so bittersweet. You really liked that one didnt you... Hope you are OK. You handled it with grace, as usual Thanks JJ.. I am OK.. I was more concerned about them.. I had a hard time sleeping last night..
Author Lizzie60 Posted September 13, 2010 Author Posted September 13, 2010 Yep...unless his wife gets there first or til she shows up later and he's busted again! Getting busted sucks, but hopefully they'll be smart and use this situation to repair what's missing in their marriage. Hope this works out the best it can for all three of you. Like I said previously.. the thing is.. I know he will calm down for a while .. but he will (I can almost put my hand in the fire) that he will cheat again.. It would take a miracle.. they've been together for over 8-9 years...(teens) and he has always cheated on her.. always.. and she knows most of the As.. I think she no longer trust him (of course)..and she will follow him like a hawk (not him but someone else)... he said that he has no idea how she found out.. and she's not about to tell him her secrets... he will not take any chances for a long while I guess.
Author Lizzie60 Posted September 13, 2010 Author Posted September 13, 2010 So.. all the BS out there.. one advice: If you ever find out about your spouse's affair.. do NOT tell him/her how you find out.. unless, of course, you catch them in the act..
WowReally Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 Mmmmm sounds like most cheating spouses have a history of cheating...it's never once and Im sure there will be another attempt too. It's sad.
GooseChaser Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 He said 'We'll get together again... in heaven'.. Aw, well, that's touching.... =] It's sad saying goodbye. Still, fact is, he has a commitment to his wife, not to you, so you should look for someone else who can give you all of themselves. You can see THEM in heaven. If he stays married to his wife, he'll probably remain with her, you know. You could always say hi though! Hehe. Best wishes Lizzie!
Author Lizzie60 Posted September 13, 2010 Author Posted September 13, 2010 Aw, well, that's touching.... =] It's sad saying goodbye. Still, fact is, he has a commitment to his wife, not to you, so you should look for someone else who can give you all of themselves. Best wishes Lizzie! Thanks GC.. but I'm not looking for all of someone.... I like my life as single.. I truly hope he will smarten up.. as he is extremely intelligent and has a very successful business on his hands for a guy his age.. but he told me this morning.. 'we, men, can't think with our other head'
JustJoe Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 Oh well, Lizzie, there are plenty more men out there to have arrangements with. This shouldn't cramp your style in the least. Perhaps you can even find a single guy? Who knows, it might be a novel change?
GooseChaser Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 (edited) Thanks GC.. but I'm not looking for all of someone.... I like my life as single.. I truly hope he will smarten up.. as he is extremely intelligent and has a very successful business on his hands for a guy his age.. but he told me this morning.. 'we, men, can't think with our other head' Lizzie, you don't have to be only with taken men! I'm sure there are plenty of great single guys out there too! Keep your eyes open and don't count them out, unless you really prefer not being their "one and only". You could also look for someone who wants an "open relationship", "friends with benefits", or "**** buddies", rather than someone who is married or in an exclusive relationship. Of those choices, I prefer friends with benefits; actually, I may be on the way to entering that type of relationship.... Friends with benefits and **** buddies tend to be single as well. What do you think of that? That could be good too. Personally, I ultimately want and am looking for a relationship, but we're all different. Edited September 13, 2010 by GooseChaser
GooseChaser Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 Here is an interesting site that lists different types of relationships and what they are like. Maybe you'd be interested in looking it over if you'd like to learn more. http://www.datingthoughts.com/2008/07/02/booty-call-****-buddy-or-friend-with-benefits/
Trimmer Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 but he told me this morning.. 'we, men, can't think with our other head' Wow... talk about not owning it... Wouldn't you have more respect for him if he'd said something more like "I can't think..." or "I wasn't thinking...." ?
Author Lizzie60 Posted September 13, 2010 Author Posted September 13, 2010 Lizzie, you don't have to be only with taken men! I'm sure there are plenty of great single guys out there too! Keep your eyes open and don't count them out, unless you really prefer not being their "one and only". You could also look for someone who wants an "open relationship", "friends with benefits", or "**** buddies", rather than someone who is married or in an exclusive relationship. Of those choices, I prefer friends with benefits; actually, I may be on the way to entering that type of relationship.... Friends with benefits and **** buddies tend to be single as well. What do you think of that? That could be good too. Personally, I ultimately want and am looking for a relationship, but we're all different. Oh.. I do have a few of those (one is single, one is divorced)..
Author Lizzie60 Posted September 13, 2010 Author Posted September 13, 2010 Wow... talk about not owning it... Wouldn't you have more respect for him if he'd said something more like "I can't think..." or "I wasn't thinking...." ? No..it's OK.. I know exactly what he meant...
jennie-jennie Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 Hugs, Lizzie, too bad he got busted.
JustJoe Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 My young MM called me late last night, he had left me a message earlier in the afternoon to call him.. I thought.. 'hummm.. that's unusual, a Sunday'... Anyway... he got busted... he has no idea how she found out.. I guess she had him followed.. She was right besides him when he called last night.. she asked him to call me ... to end the affair... I called him this morning to know more.. he said he wants to try to be faithful... he's got too much to lose.. his kids.. She knows he came to my house 2 days before she gave birth.. she also knows he was at my house 2 weeks ago.. on a Saturday... Oh well... I wished him well.. and told him he should be a responsible dad... and a good H... He said 'We'll get together again... in heaven'.. Just do me a favor. Try to make sure that the next one isn't so smarmy. "We'll get together again....in heaven"...............Please, that's just goofy. Liz, you can do much better than that kind of guy..
Author Lizzie60 Posted September 13, 2010 Author Posted September 13, 2010 Just do me a favor. Try to make sure that the next one isn't so smarmy. "We'll get together again....in heaven"...............Please, that's just goofy. Liz, you can do much better than that kind of guy.. Hahaha.. I know.. it's not his style... I was a bit 'surprised' myself.. He has the 'football' type body.. and is very 'manly'... it is sooo not his style.. I have a feeling I will hear from him again... he's ADDICTED to me..
Hazyhead Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 Hahaha.. I know.. it's not his style... I was a bit 'surprised' myself.. He has the 'football' type body.. and is very 'manly'... it is sooo not his style.. I have a feeling I will hear from him again... he's ADDICTED to me.. Before I read this last post that is what I was going to say - that I don't think it's the last you've heard from him. As soon as 24hr vigilance is over he'll be back. There seems to be no consequences for his actions, judging by her repeating forgiveness. Hope you're okay Lizzie.
JustJoe Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 Lizzie, baby, I think the "addiction", runs both ways.
Author Lizzie60 Posted September 13, 2010 Author Posted September 13, 2010 Lizzie, baby, I think the "addiction", runs both ways. Hahaha.. nope.. trust me on that one.. I'm not addicted to any of my MMs.. but I could be addicted to sex..
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