Update Re:MM that "Forgot" Me

[TigerCub]

This honestly, JUST happened.

 

I was outside having a smoke and I see him leaving a coffee shop heading to our work building.

 

He sees me and smiles

 

I motion for him to come over. I KNOW, I KNOW, you're all going to think I'm being weak and all that - but I actually wanted to ask him some stuff, because the timeline he gave me with regards to baby momma and his second kid, never made sense, so I just wanted to ask him about it, because I didn't want him to think I was dumb and he was lying to me the whole time.

 

The whole time I had my questions, but just let it go, cuz I figured that the outcome was the same "he's with her, not me, so it really doesn't matter"

 

so anyways, I asked him a few questions about that, and he answered, and cleared some stuff up.

 

Then he asks me about my life and what's going on and says something like "I care about what happens with you, of course I want to know"

 

so I just give him a look like "who the F**k are you kidding"

 

and so I say "really, we haven't talked in a long.."

 

and he cuts me off and says "I knew you were gonna say that, I knew it - I was thinking about you this weekend and I really wanted to talk to you and email you, but I didn't know how we left things off, if you wanted us to talk or not"

 

and I was like "No, don't do that, that Monday we met up was because I told you I wanted us to be friends again"

 

he says "I know we were saying how we miss each other, I didn't think we came to a definite agreement on what we were going to do"

 

I say "no, that's not true, we did say our I miss u's but you also agreed that we'll keep in touch, that you'd be emailing me again. But then we go out to the park, and in the car, you eat it like its your last meal, and then you don't even bother talking to me for weeks?! That's so insulting, what? you're treating me like some random bimbo. I never would have expected this from you at all, that's so f***ing insulting, either way, I just called you over to ask about some things that didn't add up - I'm not an idiot, they never made sense before, but I let it go"

 

and he was like "well, i'm sorry I offended you, I'm sorry"

 

and then "k, I'm going in now"

 

and he walks into the building.

 

Whatever - f him.

 

I brought up that stuff from before that didn't make sense because I didn't want him to think that I was some idiot that he could have lied to. I dunno, to me that seemed important.

 

Then I brought up my utter disgust at the way he treated me after that famous monday, and now if we don't talk again, I couldn't care less. I at least said my peace.

[bentnotbroken]

So you will be leaving this alone then?

[Ellin]

That would mean I was right about him being confused then?

 

He doesn't have it easy with you, does he?

[TigerCub]

So you will be leaving this alone then?

 

Not sure if you mean leaving him, the A, or the anger I felt at how he treated me. But either way, the answer is yes.

I'm still working on the anger

but as far as he's concerned, I'm not going to be initiating any more conversations with him.

I don't want to waste any more time on him - especially since he's shown that he can't at least treat me with respect.

[bentnotbroken]

Not sure if you mean leaving him, the A, or the anger I felt at how he treated me. But either way, the answer is yes.

I'm still working on the anger

but as far as he's concerned, I'm not going to be initiating any more conversations with him.

I don't want to waste any more time on him - especially since he's shown that he can't at least treat me with respect.

 

 

I meant him. But when someone shows you who they are....believe them. He showed you what he knows about respect when he cheated. Anger is a normal emotion that needs to be dealt with, not dismissed. So if you are angry...it is necessary for a time.

[TigerCub]

I meant him. But when someone shows you who they are....believe them. He showed you what he knows about respect when he cheated. Anger is a normal emotion that needs to be dealt with, not dismissed. So if you are angry...it is necessary for a time.

 

Yeah I guess I got caught up in the crap he told me throughout.

 

Thanks for your reply

[TigerCub]

That would mean I was right about him being confused then?

 

He doesn't have it easy with you, does he?

 

haha Ellin, you're cute

 

I totally understood what you said earlier about the possible confusion, but I honestly don't think that was it. I think he just said that today to cover up being a jackass. He knew what I wanted, and he ignored me thinking I was gonna chase after him. That's what I really think.

 

Also, he acts like a coward sometimes, like when I said how insulting I found it, he just said "oh, I'm sorry I offended you" and pretty much ran into the building. That's not a real apology.

 

I'm just disappointed at how everything unfolded, but I'm glad that I at least showed him that I've questioned a LOT of things before, that it wasn't lost on me, and that I said what I needed to about how he treated me.

 

It's a shame that he's such a dismissive person.