Tripp Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 After the breakup, I discarded all emails, burnt all letters, got rid of everything. 7 months on I was going through my desktop (today) when I came across a photo of my ex and I. My initial reaction was "Oh man, delete..." But when I looked at it, I didnt feel scorn, hatred, loneliness. I was actually quite happy that I still had this photo, and it was a time before our relationship went downhill. It brought back some good memories (not the usual reaction I used to get). This is the very last thing I have of my ex. Any thoughts of what to do?
PegNosePete Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 I can never bring myself to permanently delete photos. They are a record of what I did with my life, good or bad. I put all my photos on CD/DVD for backup purposes. On my PC I delete all the photos of my ex. But I know that if I ever want to look at them, I have them on DVD in the loft.
Billie The Puppet Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 I can never bring myself to permanently delete photos. They are a record of what I did with my life, good or bad. I put all my photos on CD/DVD for backup purposes. On my PC I delete all the photos of my ex. But I know that if I ever want to look at them, I have them on DVD in the loft. I did the same. My fb has a couple pictures of my ex in one album because she came to that event with me. My ex's fb still has photos of me because she hasn't untagged her self also in her profile album still has photos of me and her together just her most current is herself. ( though it is one while we were on vacation together ) she still has all of my family friended too.
br0ken_w0lf Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 Speaking as someone who destroyed everything (pictures, mementos, wedding album, etc.) while I was in a very emotionally bad place, I can say now that I regret it and wish I hadn't. As PegNosePete said, it's a record of your life, good or bad. It wasn't until I finally got over everything and healed up that I regretted it, so my advice would be to keep whatever you have left, especially given the way you felt most recently.
silic0ntoad Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 I'm glad I destroyed mine. All of them. Good riddance. She was a cancer anyhow.
LoveTruthChaos Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 Hold onto it. In years to come, you'll be glad you did. I kept things from my first boyfriend for years, until I realised that because he wasn't over me, they were possessing some kind of energy to keep me from meeting another guy. When I finally burnt all the letters years later, only 3 months later I was in love. Now I'm moving house and finding more things to do with him, and I'm in the process of getting rid of everything because he meant nothing to me. My current ex, however, meant so much to me. And although I ripped a couple of photos in anger the minute he broke up with me, I cannot bring myself to get rid of anything. I burnt everything onto a disc, took all his notes and letters and cards and put them in a small box, well away from where I can see them. When the time comes, I'll know what to do... So, leave it for now
106rob Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 I just put them all on a pen drive, got all my old pics on there from my first gf and from my recent break up I still have a few pics of her on my fb! Not sure why because she went and untagged herself in them all and deleted any of her and me off hers straight away!! No need for it tbh she broke up with me because " we were too difrent" apparently so not like there should be any hatred there on her part at least anyway!! Tbh iv not deleted them yetbecause of how it makes me feel when I see pics of us/ her I will doit eventually though
Username37 Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 I'm glad I destroyed mine. All of them. Good riddance. She was a cancer anyhow. What's wrong with cancers? >
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