Sillyboy Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 I met an amazing girl last year, who although 8 years younger than I, was very up front with her feelings towards me- she communicated much better than any other girl I've ever met, and after a few months she told me she loved me- it freaked me out! We talked it through and i told her how much i cared for her, and admired her- just couldnt get the L word out! We continued to have a wonderful time together until I got a new job (my dream job- international pilot). The stress I put under myself to get up and running made it hard for me to open up to her about things that were going on, and then I had a friend die and it all became too much- so I broke up with her. A few months later and I realise I've run away from my ultimate girl! I talked her through the situation and how I dealt with it all by running away, told her I love her and it turns out she's seeing someone. It also turns out that we're doing a course together that will mean we see each other almost once a week. She has asked for time. I asked how much- she couldn't answer. My opinion is the limited contact is not bad if I can move on and let go of the outcome. But what about behavior? Do I hide my interest? Outside of saying hi and bye, should I say any thing more? She has told a friend that if we were to be together again she would want it to be for a long time. She is 21 and I believe she's freaking out at that thought and running from me now! I just want to sweep her off her feet but I need the chance to do so... How? Opinions requested!
Lovebone Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 you're over-complicating it, broseph. Just ask her out on a date.
HopeLove Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 Use the chance you have you'll see her once a week. Be friendly, make small talk, make her laugh, see how she reacts and after a couple of times ask her out.
Author Sillyboy Posted September 15, 2010 Author Posted September 15, 2010 So I should just leave it a month or so of LC on the weekly meet up and then ask her on a date? I'm worried that I may shoot myself in the foot by not respecting her wish for time.
lunita Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 Stay LC, let her know you're there, be patient, never have any outbursts, always have a positive attitude around her and KEEP busy!!! It's good to let her know you there but at the same time, she needs to know that you are still continuing your life without her. I know it may sound weird, but moving on in a way and enjoying yourself actually makes you more attractive. So keep the contact there, keep it positive, you can give her hints you are there but also go out and do things for YOU.
Author Sillyboy Posted September 15, 2010 Author Posted September 15, 2010 I had thought to tell her that I want to be with her for a long time, too, so why won't she let me take her out to dinner and put a smile on her face- after all- we both want the same thing, right? I just don't know how soon is too soon- it will only have been two weeks next time I see her- perhaps I should wait 3? I know I have to let go of the outcome and be unconditional with the conversation- I don't want it to be an ego driven event- I texted her asking why she was scared of me and kept running last tome I saw her after hearing about her new guy who she is dating- I feel I should leave some space in there before talking to her about a date.. Your opinions are appreciated!
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