is it healthy or ok that it really turns me on to get cheated on?

[skip2mylou333]

okay so i been with my gf for about 2 years now and we are doing a long distance relationship. we talk constantly on the phone and text each other. we are super in love, she is going to move in with me when she finishes college in lil over a year. let me add she is a virgin. she totally wants to marry me and have my kids and i want that as well but i have the craziest fantasy that i want her to cheat on me. I'v asked her to and she doesnt want to cause she wants to be loyal. she wants to give her v card to me and i have no problem taking it lol. I hope she will come around one day rather if its b4 she moves in with me or after that she will want to fullfill my fantasy, but is it healthy? can it destroy our relationship or could it just really spice things up? how many guys would let there girl have anyone she wants? so that should make her not wanna leave me right? i dont want her to ever leave me for another man but i wanna do this fantasy! have i cheated on her? no! am i sure i want her to cheat? hell ya, knowing she wants to get ****ed by another dude turns me on sooooo much. maybe to much tho, maybe i have a problem. let me get into details here. if i dont cum for a few days i get so much more into wanting this fantasy to play out. its like i want her to own me like i want her to know if i dont cum then she can do what she wants so then she will tell me i dont want you to cum. that willl turn me on. i dont want her to get stds but i dont want her to use a condom, i really want sumone to make her cum, and i really want her to be with sumone with a bigger package then me. but in the end i want her home sleeping with me and marrying me. is this possible or do i have problems? be honest, tell me what you think. also do u think she will be more up for this once she is not a virgin nemore?

[LucreziaBorgia]

can it destroy our relationship

 

With this particular girl, yes. She doesn't strike me as the type of woman/situation you are fantasizing about. If something like that happened, she may well leave you for a guy who wants her all to himself.

 

It is a pretty common fantasy you have, but it will only work if you are with a similarly-minded partner, which it doesn't sound like she is.

[skip2mylou333]

you may be right! and i appreciate your honesty! I'll keep that in mind