just_some_guy Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 It's been six months of separation out of a 5 year marriage and a 10 year relationship. I had emotionally decoupled a year or more ago. We are amicable and the divorce papers filed (finally - delayed for her sake due to emotional stability problems) and we should reach an agreement within the month once all the paperwork and disclosures are done. I've started to look around. I recently got a bit close to someone that I care about, but I don't want to subject her to rebound syndrome and some of my baggage that I need to deal with. Emotionally, I'm kind of stuck, thinking I was ready for a physical relationship, but something inside is emotionally blocking me. Probably for the best, to keep from rushing in at this point. I'm wondering, how long? I'm getting to be middle aged and although I'm OK with myself to be alone, I don't really want to. I'd rather have a relationship, closeness, and so on. I really miss sleeping with someone, having meals together, just hanging out and normal life together, and of course, sex.
whichwayisup Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 You are still grieving and it'll take a while. You're lonely, rightfully so, but being alone and ridding of the emotional baggage and healing has to happen before you go ahead and get involved with someone else. You don't have 100% of yourself to give to another woman. Be with friends and family, get busy, be social and all.. You'll know in your heart when the time is right. Things will just make sense and feel "right".
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