dillusional Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 I've been lurking in this forum and reading the posts since my heart was broken 4 months ago. I don't know if I should initiate contact with my ex-bf. He called it off after us being together for 2.5 years. We have already started planning for our future and stuff. But when he broke it off, he told me that he might not have even loved me in the first place, was unsure after a while then called me and we were in NC for a few weeks before he told me that he is not in love with me. What do you guys think? Am I holding onto false hope? I've basically deleted and threw away everything that reminds me of him. The pain is too much for me to bear. But a part of me still hopes that one day he will return because I know that he did love me. Thank you all for listening. I just needed to rant.
dtyk Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 I would personally just let it be. I broke up with my ex gf 7 months ago. I really thought that she was the love of my life. However, once it's broken, it'll never be the same again. People want second chances because they believe they can go back to what it was before, but be honest to yourself and ask that question. Will it even be close to being the same?
TaraMaiden Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 I've been lurking in this forum and reading the posts since my heart was broken 4 months ago. I don't know if I should initiate contact with my ex-bf. He called it off after us being together for 2.5 years. We have already started planning for our future and stuff. But when he broke it off, he told me that he might not have even loved me in the first place, was unsure after a while then called me and we were in NC for a few weeks before he told me that he is not in love with me. What do you guys think? Am I holding onto false hope? I've basically deleted and threw away everything that reminds me of him. The pain is too much for me to bear. But a part of me still hopes that one day he will return because I know that he did love me. What he 'knows' and what you 'know' are completely different things. You may hold a fervent, passionate and resolute belief in your heart that he loved you, but I'm afraid he really believes different. If he really wasn't sure of himself, it's not you who would be initiating contact. It would be him. As nothing has come from him, I'm afraid you are going to have to face facts: it's not on the cards, and doesn't look as if it ever will be. Count your lucky stars he broke it off with you before plans became so concrete that getting out of it would have had catastrophic consequences. He let you off in good time, and that too, is a sure sign of someone who is sure he knew what he was doing. To have let it gone on further might have been further indication of his uncertainty. he would have been prevaricating. It's done. No further filling-in, elaboration, justification or explanation is necessary. You'd be trying to convince the wrong people. And he would never be convinced.
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