Cutey25 Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 I have a huge problem Im 25 been together for 6 years now with my husband and married for 1 year he is a wonderful intelligent guy treats me well and everything else. Well I went out about 3 weeks ago was very intoxicated started talking to this guy at the bar he was the same age as me still in school we hit it off although somehow I forgot what we where talking about at some point so on my way walking home I end up getting into this guys apartment he is single guy and had sex with him although I don’t remember much of that night so of course I had the guys number so I told my husband that I was intoxicated and that I had sex with this guy he was upset of course but forgiving wanted us to get forget about it. So 2 weeks passed we have moved on from it the guy calls me at 3 in the morning out of the blue to tell me that his in front of my apartment building if I could come down so I went down he was there kissing me on the street wanting me to come over to his place I was pushing away still went with it so we had sex for the second time and I rushed out of the apartment the guy didn’t want me to leave I hated myself for letting it happened it again but I decided not to tell my husband about this cause if he found out he would flip out so couple days later the guy texts me at 3 in the morning I was with my husband he happened to look into my phone that night he was in raged what he saw that I’ve seen the guy again after he forgave me so he called the guy right back and told him to back off that he was gonna hurt him bad and that I was married I didn’t mention to the other guy I was married I told him I was engaged the guy told my husband she didn’t tell me that he apologized to him so I called the guy couple minutes later my husband fell asleep the guy was mad and scared I told him he should have never answered his phone or texted me so when I called the guy right back he told me he loved me and wants to see me again soon after everything that happened I haven’t had contact with the other guy for couple days now my husband is extremely hurt don't know what to do I have some feelings for that other guy I want to have sex with him again how can he tell me that he Loved me when we only been together twice and after my husband told him to back off is he enjoying this??
FryFish Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 Cutey... You are not the kind of person who should be in a relationship... Relationships are for GOOD people...
carhill Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 Welcome to LS More concise and complete responses are helped if you can use punctuation and paragraphs in the future. Your text is pretty difficult to read, at least by myself. If you want to explore relationships/sex with other men, you'll either need to open up your marriage or divorce, presuming the anger expressed by your husband is indicative of his perspective regarding your infidelity. Considering your age, you probably entered a LTR too soon and still need to mature some more on your own. Do you have any children? If you do not, there is a very good chance your husband will divorce you over this. Be prepared for that. Even with children, the near future is going to be difficult. What's next? That depends on you. What do you want?
Bryanp Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 You have a great husband and you have been married only one year. You lied and cheated on your husband twice and put him at risk for STD's and you now talk about wanting to have sex with this OM again. How would you feel if your husband was humiliating and disrespect you the way you have been doing to your husband? You need to seek counseling and certainly allow your husband to leave and divorce so he can find a woman who can love, respect him and value a commitment to marriage since it is clear that you cannot. Why would you hurt the man that loves you and married you to do such a thing? Would you want him to do that to you? This is really sad that you are clearly so self-destructive.
atlnay Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 So wait...all you want to know is how can the om tell you he loves you & is he enjoying this? Is that all that matters? His feelings & words? If so, get an annullment so you both are free.You said you do want to have sex with him, fair enough, give your hubby the info & freedom he needs to move on his his own life. Good luck to all of you.
Woggle Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 Divorce your husband and stay single and please do not act like the victim when you find out what the OM really wants.
Iconoclast Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 I don't say this to be mean. Just reality. You are not mature enough yet to have a marriage. You need to divorce your husband. You are too easily tempted. This will happen again.
lkjh Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 If this isn't fake then divorce your H as soon as possible so he doesn't waste anymore time on you
Untouchable_Fire Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 my husband is extremely hurt don't know what to do I have some feelings for that other guy I want to have sex with him again how can he tell me that he Loved me when we only been together twice and after my husband told him to back off is he enjoying this?? The question you need to answer is... Why are YOU enjoying this? In fact your such a blatantly bad person... I'm calling TROLL on this one.
jnj express Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 You shouldn't be married----you don't even have a clue as to what commitment is Why are you going out drinking w/out your H. Why would you go down to see this other guy, again---right out in front of your own home, at 3 A M----You certainly weren't drunk----Does the word NO not fit into your vocabulary You do not deserve a decent, good, and loving Husband The 1st few years of mge., are basically the best especially the romantic part, before the sameness, and boredom sets in---yet here you are spreading your legs for some guy you met in a bar, a guy who was a total stranger, yet you go to his apt., he could have been a psycho, or a criminal, and you go anyway----you need to grow up------even most teen-agers don't act as immature as you are acting
RobD70 Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 Tell your husband to come on to this site so we can tell him to divorce you.
Dexter Morgan Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 I was married I didn’t mention to the other guy I was married exactly, so none of this, i let it "happen" crap. you knew what you were doing, you wanted to see how far you could go with another guy, therefore you neglected to tell him you were married. you knew from the night you were getting ready to go out drinking that you'd jump a guy if the opportunity arose. and why are you out partying when you are married anyway? I have some feelings for that other guy I want to have sex with him again then divorce your husband, he deserves MUCH better. how can he tell me that he Loved me when we only been together twice and after my husband told him to back off is he enjoying this?? who gives a crap how he can tell you he loves you after only a couple of f##k meetings? YOU ARE MARRIED...the other man's state of mind shouldn't even matter. But we can see that it does matter...therefore, get a divorce. You aren't fit to be married and your husband deserves a woman that will be faithful to him. oh, and your username tell us that you are pretty into yourself, which is why you are a cheater in the first place. get an annullment, and don't get married again until you grow up.
Author Cutey25 Posted September 13, 2010 Author Posted September 13, 2010 You guys are so harsh I love my h to death I will never get a divorce the other guy is an ass anyway I changed my mind I don't want anything to do with the other guy anymore and let me tell you I've been with my husband for 6 years is been wonderful so what I screwed up I deserve a chance!!
GorillaTheater Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 So 2 weeks passed we have moved on from it the guy calls me at 3 in the morning out of the blue to tell me that his in front of my apartment building if I could come down so I went down he was there kissing me on the street wanting me to come over to his place I was pushing away still went with it so we had sex Priceless. "Hi! I'm Cutie! Wanna have sex and stuff?"
FryFish Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 so what I screwed up I deserve a chance!! You had a chance... and you used it to **** some stranger...TWICE! You dont LOVE your husband... You dont even like him. Seriously, get a divorce.
Owl Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 If you have to ask...LOL! I say don't feed them, and they starve.
Dexter Morgan Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 You guys are so harsh I love my h to death I will never get a divorce the other guy is an ass anyway I changed my mind I don't want anything to do with the other guy anymore and let me tell you I've been with my husband for 6 years is been wonderful so what I screwed up I deserve a chance!! well just how many chances do you deserve? he forgave you and pretty much was ready to give you a free, pain-free pass at you f#####g another man........then you did it again. Spit in his face and crapped on his forgiveness. you had a chance, you don't deserve any more. and no, you don't get to f### another man twice and try to tell us you love your H. If you loved your H, you wouldn't have rode another man.
Dexter Morgan Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 Priceless. "Hi! I'm Cutie! Wanna have sex and stuff?" ROFLMAO!!! :lmao: ya, thats kind of the impression I got as well. "Like o muh gawd!!!"
Dexter Morgan Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 You had a chance... and you used it to **** some stranger...TWICE! You dont LOVE your husband... You dont even like him. Seriously, get a divorce. she wont divorce him...she is too selfish. afraid he'll find happiness with a good woman.
Author Cutey25 Posted September 13, 2010 Author Posted September 13, 2010 Hahaha look at all the haters he told me he won't divorce me soo what you have to say about that just because you guys are so miserable in your own relationships don't be giving me negative feedbacks !!
carhill Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 Watch out for the revenge affair; I've seen this happen with a number of friends where the wife cheated first. There is also precedent here on LS. Also, beware that the first response isn't always the final response. He's still processing all of this. Good luck
Bryanp Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 I am just curious but how would you feel if your husband cheated on you twice behind your back and put your health at risk for STD's? Why would you inflict such pain on your husband who you claim you love so much? In addition, you go on to state that you would like to have sex again with the OM. Again imagine your husband saying and doing the same thing to you. You don't treat people who you claim you love this way.
Author Cutey25 Posted September 13, 2010 Author Posted September 13, 2010 I can tell you this much I payed a real big price for this he did flip out too much I ended up in the hospital from concusions !!
Bryanp Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 That is terrible. Nobody deserves physical violence. I worry about you. There is no excuse for this type of physical violence. Have you thought about looking into a woman's shelter for your own protection. Good luck.
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