Angel Pie Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 My ex and I have been broken up for maybe 4 months. He was amazing at first, did everything a perfect bf does. We feel in love. Then We lived together rather quickly and spent the last 2 years together. He became abusive, but not like that typical abusive man that starts beating women for no reason. It was like, we we get into an argument and each time would get worse. The names got worse, insults, put downs, mental games, and then each physical altercation got worse, the last time for me I was punched in the face, pinned on our dining room floor, screamed at, threatened, spit on and head smashed twice, left in my own blood while he went on his way. Aside from that he was always up to no good. Emailing ex gf whenever we argued professing his love to her, addicted to porn, joining dating sites while we were together, lied about everything. He told me flat out that he would lie to me anytime he felt he would be yelled at. The list goes on. I was confident when we met, I became weak in our relationship. I'm torn because he has met a new girl. She is nothing like me. She is 21. She is plain, no makeup, no style, no body, shy, kind of dorky. Most men wouldn't look. She seems smart though. She has emailed me and said that they are together and seems to believe that he has changed. She said he was honest with her about the abuse with me and his other ex and that he seemed to have a reason to back up everything. Shortly after he sends me an I'm sorry email. It did not seem sincere. I did tell his new gf why I was so upset with him as she asked. I believe she must have told him and that he is now emailing me that to prove to her he has changed. Earlier in the same day, he and I were arguing about the abuse and he called me pathetic and that no one would believe me. He is now charged with assault and failure to appear in court which is what a lot of the argument was about - he had a warrent for his arrest and was caught after a year just the other day. Hes been blamming me for ruining his life. His new gf believes hes in denial and has not forgiven himself yet but she wants to stick it through because she was once in a troubled situation and knows what signs to look for and doesnt believe that hes going to be like that with her. I feel jealous in the sense as why didn't he want to change for me? Did he not love me enough? Why is he willing to change for this new person? He always said that it was my fault that he did all those things to me. That if I wasn't such a bitch that he would never have gotten mad. Is this true? Has he changed, does she now get to have the life with him that was supposed to be mine? My logic is telling me that he was with his ex for 7 yrs, broke up 2 months, met me and we were 2 yrs, broke up 2-3 months and now hes with her. He said he thinks hes ready for a new relationship but how?
GrayClouds Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 (edited) did not see the double post Edited September 12, 2010 by GrayClouds
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