Livelovelearn Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 hello all, my story has been on here for a while my ex cheated on me blah blah blah.. recently we got in contact thought we could be friends since our relationship for the most part was great..i recently found out he contacted the girl he cheated on me with, and she told me..she told him to "f" off and he assumed that i stirred up some drama ..now even though i know he is an *******, he texted me telling me to never talk to him ever again and i feel like crap...i cant stop thinking about him, crying. i just feel so depressed. This man has changed. he was my first love and he had treated me so well ..i dont know what happened. I am definitely not happy and i havent really dealt with the betrayal especially since i feel i need to talk to him which may never happen......LSers i just dont know what to do, nothing seems to make me feel better.
Username37 Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 hello all, my story has been on here for a while my ex cheated on me blah blah blah.. recently we got in contact thought we could be friends since our relationship for the most part was great..i recently found out he contacted the girl he cheated on me with, and she told me..she told him to "f" off and he assumed that i stirred up some drama ..now even though i know he is an *******, he texted me telling me to never talk to him ever again and i feel like crap...i cant stop thinking about him, crying. i just feel so depressed. This man has changed. he was my first love and he had treated me so well ..i dont know what happened. I am definitely not happy and i havent really dealt with the betrayal especially since i feel i need to talk to him which may never happen......LSers i just dont know what to do, nothing seems to make me feel better. Break off the friendship. Why be friends with someone that did you wrong. Some friend right? You want to feel better? Get rid of him. And for the people who "don't understand" **** them. We're here for you because we're going through the same pain. We understand. Good luck to you
Author Livelovelearn Posted September 12, 2010 Author Posted September 12, 2010 Break off the friendship. Why be friends with someone that did you wrong. Some friend right? You want to feel better? Get rid of him. And for the people who "don't understand" **** them. We're here for you because we're going through the same pain. We understand. Good luck to you Thank you alot , your support is greatly appreciated. Unfortunately he was the first to break off the friendship because i caught him in another lie so he ran before i could say anything, it sucks because i guess i am too passive i probably would have forgave him any way. Yeah i figured forgetting him is best. Its always easier said than done though ill try...
NewlyBroken Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Hey LiveLoveLearn, My heart really goes out to you, and I hate that this situation has happened... Something I'm SLOWLY learning, is that people DO change; when this occurs, they can and do often times lose that "thing" that made them special to us in the beginning. It's extremely heart-breaking, but it does happen... You seem like a very forgiving person, which is a wonderful virtue to have as a human being, but please always try to remember to reserve it for those who are respectfully worthy of your forgiveness. Try not to let him make you feel bad about ANYTHING, especially Him cheating on You...There are better out there for you...I'm with Username37, don't try to be friends; he's not worthy of your friendship any longer. Cut him off & do your d@mndest to keep your chin up... I also would like to say THANK YOU to you as well for your Reply post to my story; I'm touched and very appreciative that you took a few moments to express yourself and share some advice. Take it easy...Respect to you.
ohno89 Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Hey LiveLoveLearn, My heart really goes out to you, and I hate that this situation has happened... Something I'm SLOWLY learning, is that people DO change; when this occurs, they can and do often times lose that "thing" that made them special to us in the beginning. It's extremely heart-breaking, but it does happen... You seem like a very forgiving person, which is a wonderful virtue to have as a human being, but please always try to remember to reserve it for those who are respectfully worthy of your forgiveness. Try not to let him make you feel bad about ANYTHING, especially Him cheating on You...There are better out there for you...I'm with Username37, don't try to be friends; he's not worthy of your friendship any longer. Cut him off & do your d@mndest to keep your chin up... I also would like to say THANK YOU to you as well for your Reply post to my story; I'm touched and very appreciative that you took a few moments to express yourself and share some advice. Take it easy...Respect to you. I agree with what's already been said, especially the bold as it happened to me. I understand that your ex probably was a great guy and lovely to you - mine was too - but the minute they cheat, that stops. It's difficult to do because all the nice things usually override the cheating and almost make it okay to still think they're great but they're not. Things will get easier and hopefully like me, and slowly, you'll start to realise that - okay, you're ex was an alright guy for the most part - but he wasn't THAT great and you will find better. And i very much think you shouldn't stay friends with this guy, it won't be good for you. Look after yourself..x
Author Livelovelearn Posted September 22, 2010 Author Posted September 22, 2010 Thanks NewlyBroken and OhNo89..i appreciate the support and advice. Your words mean alot more to me than you think. Sometimes encouraging words and advice make such a huge difference. Yes my ex was a good guy for the most part and i definately know i can do better. I know i shouldnt be friends but recently he asked to cut contact and then days later he called me saying he was too hard on me and whatnot. I said okay, didnt really show any interest. So now i feel less stressed or depressed about him and if he wants to contact me, thats fine but i know i wont be reaching out to him. Thanks everyone
pandagirl Posted September 22, 2010 Posted September 22, 2010 My friend once said something to be like, "If they cheated on you, it's not that they played you, they just played themselves." If you think about it, it's true. It's pretty idiotic and pathetic when people cheat.
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