My Long Distance Story - Meeting Again

[antont]

I am new to this forum and find the stories very intersting, finding the need to share my story and be brave enough for the feedback.

 

My story is this, I am 45 and was married for 24 years, divorced now for two months, had a great friend, just no love in the relationship. Son is grown and gone out of the house for 4 years, thought at the point my son moved out we would figue out if we had it within us to make the marriage last. Unfortunately we could not find our way back to the place that brought us together so many years ago.

 

During my seperation prior to my divorce I stumbled on my teenage love, our talks started innocently enough, just sharing our lives after 30 years of not seeing eachother. We talk everyday either on the phone, email, facebook or texting. Many hours and many weeks now and sharing of many photo's.

 

We have made a commitment to meet, our feelings our strong and we have both expressed a love for the relationship, we are careful not to get to ahead of ourselves, we know we need to meet AGAIN before we can take this relationship another step further.

 

The connection is amazing, so much in common and we share so many wonderful interests.

 

I know there is mutual love, we have said it. Next step is to meet AGAIN.

 

Can two people be in love after this many years of not seeing eachother, we had been boyfriend and girlfriend once in our lives but we were young and went seperate directions and now we've been brought back together. I do not feel any regret for using the words we love eachother, is there anything wrong with that?

 

My Story

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[HeavenOrHell]

IMO yes people can still be in love with someone they haven't seen for years, or rather they can fall in love with them again.

[Fouts]

Nothing wrong with having those feelings resurface from the old days. Just be cautious of the spark not being there after all these years when you do get face to face. Don't get too wrapped up in the love part of it until you're together and sure.

[Romance]

It sounds like a fairy tale! I do believe you two could be right for each other but make sure meeting face to face feels just as magical.

[TheLastHonestGuy]

Don't be a fool. It's typical for older people who have divorced to want to jump on a new relationship too fast.

 

This might be a foolish move on your part to think there's "love" after only 2 months or so. You need to step on the breaks and take it a bit slower.

 

Remember that people change over time, specially after 30 years. You should give it at least 1-2 years before thinking of something serious with this guy. Take it slow because you don't want to find yourself in the same situation you're in once again.

 

Keep in mind that being in a long distance relationship requires a lot more time to get to know the true personality of an individual than a traditional relationship.

 

Of course the few times you guys see each other he'll be on his best behavior and will seem like the perfect match.

 

I suggest you proceed with caution.

[antont]

Thank you all for a little feedback and good advice, 1st step is to meet AGAIN which is being planned around schedules but definetly within the next two months. Hope at a later time I can post the results of that meeting.