tinybear5 Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 wtf man he ruined food for me . im 5'5 and was around 129 pounds when we were together. now i cant stomach food anymore--down to 121.its been almost 2 weeks since this nightmare breakup began..i really dont know what to make of hearing "i love you; il always love you" and " you never know whats gona happen in the future" frikkn words of hope.we cant be together now; we both know that....its deff one of those things where in a couple of years we'd work perfect together..were both 22 years old ..spent 3 years togeher.....idk why i feel that if my heart is empty than stomach should be too:mad:
ShannonMI Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 wtf man he ruined food for me . im 5'5 and was around 129 pounds when we were together. now i cant stomach food anymore--down to 121.its been almost 2 weeks since this nightmare breakup began..i really dont know what to make of hearing "i love you; il always love you" and " you never know whats gona happen in the future" frikkn words of hope.we cant be together now; we both know that....its deff one of those things where in a couple of years we'd work perfect together..were both 22 years old ..spent 3 years togeher.....idk why i feel that if my heart is empty than stomach should be too:mad: I'm going through the same thing. Not eating much. I've lost weight too. I force myself to eat because I know my body needs it. You gotta eat, girl. Even if you don't want to. You gotta take care of yourself. Eating is one of the MANY things you should be doing to take care of yourself. I know your stomach is probably in knots. Mine is too. Force yourself, though. Right now you feel emotionally unhealthy, I'm sure. Not eating will only make you physically unhealthy. Don't do it to yourself.
LoveTruthChaos Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 yes, try a liquid diet. Food feels like too much effort when you're heartbroken. Just the effort of chewing can be too much! Smoothies and juice and tea to keep your energy up. When you see food in the supermarket and say 'i feel like some of that', then you know you're ready.
Ajax Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 That happened to me too. I lost 10 pounds in two weeks, and I'm not a big guy. Anxiety does that to some people. Some people cope by over eating, other's by undereating. I've been told by a friend in the medical field that it has to do with your body's reaction to stress. During stressful situations it diverts energy away from digestion to the fight or flight instinct. For me cooking became a painful reminder of my relationship in iteself since we used to cook together all the time. It will get better in time. Like others have said, try a liquid diet for a while. Keep up your strength, excercise, and eat meals with friends and family as much as you can.
Username37 Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 I couldn't eat too when my ex dumped me. Lost 10 pounds...I looked scary. The words of my mom. Eat little by little. Just relax and once you start feeling better, your appetite will come back with a vengeance. You're gonna eat so much **** it's gonna be scary XD Good luck to you
xx.Kael.xx Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 You gotta chow down, mate. I know how it feels, but your only punishing yourself by depriving yourself of food. It sucks, but you need that energy. The key to moving on, is being healthy. Being healthy, means eating well. See where this is going? . Keep strong, you can do it.
Billie The Puppet Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 Weighed myself today and what I saw was scary, I weighed in at 170 Lbs. Before the Break Up I was 205 Lbs that's a loss of 35 Lbs in a month. This is mostly without exercise. I do eat though but only small portions as my appetite is not what it used to be. I have cut junk food and juices and have been only drinking water etc as the break up has effected my need/want to eat I just don't feel hungry anymore. Before the break up I had an very striving hunger drive as I love to eat. Now I am not going to lie I want to weigh even less than that like I would like to lose another 30 pounds or so so I can fit into a good BMI but I want it to be the healthy way. Personally I don't think I have dropped the weight fast but my family is concerned that I dropped it too fast. I had a week period where I was exercising that could have attributed to this as well. My current job is not physically demanding so it wouldn't attribute to much of the weight loss. I dropped from Obese (Although I never really looked obese) to Overweight in a BMI scale and I am only a fraction away from dropping down another category to Normal.
Phscn Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 The same thing happened to me after my ex and I broke up, I couldnt eat for a while . And for me it was horrible I have always had a small fame and a very high metabolism, Before the break up I was 98lbs and 5'3 after about 3 weeks I went to 88lbs . What helped me was eating soft food and are easy to handle like soups and shakes and such, on thing I did was eat or drink something every three hours it does matter how much you eat as long as you do, it really helped me.
Billie The Puppet Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 See OP last 8 pounds in 2 weeks, You lost 10 in 3 but I dropped 30 in about 5. It doesn't add up quite right especially because I don't notice where it's lost except the face. I drink only water and occasionally like today an orange juice I eat: Fruits and Vegetables throughout the day and a yogurt Dinner is the only "meal" I eat - (I have always been this way even before break up and my metabolism due to it is effected but in the reverse way I shouldn't be able to lose weight fast because of this) Now as for the Dinner plan it's usually a good variety of vegetables or a fruit salad and a nice portion of chicken, beef or pork but the meat is always boiled first to remove the fat.
ShannonMI Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 Weighed myself today and what I saw was scary, I weighed in at 170 Lbs. Before the Break Up I was 205 Lbs that's a loss of 35 Lbs in a month. This is mostly without exercise. I do eat though but only small portions as my appetite is not what it used to be. I have cut junk food and juices and have been only drinking water etc as the break up has effected my need/want to eat I just don't feel hungry anymore. Before the break up I had an very striving hunger drive as I love to eat. Now I am not going to lie I want to weigh even less than that like I would like to lose another 30 pounds or so so I can fit into a good BMI but I want it to be the healthy way. Personally I don't think I have dropped the weight fast but my family is concerned that I dropped it too fast. I had a week period where I was exercising that could have attributed to this as well. My current job is not physically demanding so it wouldn't attribute to much of the weight loss. I dropped from Obese (Although I never really looked obese) to Overweight in a BMI scale and I am only a fraction away from dropping down another category to Normal. 35lbs in a month?? Yikes! Take it easy Billie! That's a lot of weight to lose in a short time. That's about 1 pound a day. Just be careful not to lose too much more. I know you said you wanted to lose another 30lbs, but do it the healthy way. I know that breakups take a toll on your appetite. Mine isn't what it used to be. Just be careful;)
ShannonMI Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 See OP last 8 pounds in 2 weeks, You lost 10 in 3 but I dropped 30 in about 5. It doesn't add up quite right especially because I don't notice where it's lost except the face. I drink only water and occasionally like today an orange juice I eat: Fruits and Vegetables throughout the day and a yogurt Dinner is the only "meal" I eat - (I have always been this way even before break up and my metabolism due to it is effected but in the reverse way I shouldn't be able to lose weight fast because of this) Now as for the Dinner plan it's usually a good variety of vegetables or a fruit salad and a nice portion of chicken, beef or pork but the meat is always boiled first to remove the fat. It actually sounds like you are eating well. Eat a little more for breakfast and lunch though. What about snacks? Don't be depriving yourself too much!
D-Lish Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 You should try supplement shakes. I lost 50lbs in my divorce, I barely ate! I got the the point where I was sipping boost shakes just to stop losing weight. I am almost 5'8" and I got down to 105lbs at one point, completely emaciated. Take care of yourself hun:(
Billie The Puppet Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 Wherever I lost the weight is not where I want it to be. I still have love handles and a belly lol. - However when I get back to exercising and losing the weight properly perhaps they will disappear. Well not entirely accurate as I feel pant size went down. Unfortunately I see it in my face and I am not sure I like that but again that could just be because I don't have the happy go lucky face I did while in a relationship. Especially under my eyes.
br0ken_w0lf Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 Well, I've been there and all I can say is not eating was probably one of the worst things I did. I certainly didn't *feel* like eating, but not eating sapped my energy (obviously), which made me feel useless, and ensured that my physical state matched my mental state... In a month, I went from 174 to 149 - not exactly healthy! So, as some others advised, try to keep calories coming in, even if in the form of shakes, etc. You may found that you'll feel a little better, at least physically.
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