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Do We Tend To Think That We Are More Attractive Than We Really Are?

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jamesum Established Member

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So I had always thought that I was an okay looking guy. I would rate myself around 7 maybe.

 

But then today I was bored so I went through my picture collection. I was browsing all my photos and in the middle of it suddenly I felt like I switched to a different person looking at someone else's pictures and then I started to realize that Im actually pretty unattractive. Instead of a 7, I think now Im more of a 5 or perhaps less.

 

Im very disheartened but at least now I know myself better.

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Fouts Established Member

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Well, you know yourself best. Maybe you figure in your personality for an overall score? There's more to the total package than a nice face or bod.

 

That being said, I think people are pretty realistic. They'll bump up the number a notch or so when discussing it with friends or something, but in general know where they stand.

 

Remember though, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Nothing is more true than that.

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I don't know...

 

When I was a kid I thought I was the bee's knees; I used to stare at myself for hours in the mirror. I think it was because I constantly had telling me what a pretty and beautiful child I was and as I look at photos of myself as a child, I know that I was, but I also know that a compliment is often a lie, and people are very nice and kind without meaning what they say, 'oh your baby's so cute', 'i've missed you!', 'we should go for coffee...' haha

 

As I grew older, I didn't think I was pretty at all. When my boyfriend and I were together I felt beautiful, gorgeous, sexy. Now I dip between thinking i'm model material and just another girl.

 

Realistically, I think i'm just another pretty girl. No-one can really stand out in our beauty obsessed world, especially naturally.

 

I think we do tend to over or under-estimate our looks. Its annoying!

skydiveaddict Established Member

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I'm just pretty nasty looking all around. But I've accepted it

USMCHokie Established Member

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I certainly don't...I'd be generous in giving myself an average rating of 5...

Star Gazer Established Member

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I'm guilty of this. I think I'm thinner and prettier than I really am. Pictures prove it! :laugh:

USMCHokie Established Member

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I'm guilty of this. I think I'm thinner and prettier than I really am. Pictures prove it! :laugh:

 

Oh, please... :rolleyes::p

 

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It can go both ways. Some think they're hotter than they really are. But, some are more attractive than they give themselves credit for. I always thought I was slightly above average looking. But, a clothing store wanted me to model for them and attract customers. I also got insanely high ratings on HotorNot(not necessarily accurat ethough), so it can go both ways.

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For awhile I thought I was much less attractive than I gave myself credit for. I thought I was decent, but nothing special. It was because I hadn't ever really gotten positive affirmation of my looks from people my age, particularly guys. When I got to college, and especially when I started online dating, that changed. External validation can do wonders in boosting your overall confidence, but one has to be careful to not become dependent on it as the sole source of self-esteem. In my case, I did depend on it for a time, but for awhile now I've been able to just look in the mirror, and look inside myself, say, "Hey, I am pretty damn cool" and be able to believe it without any other convincing. ::bunny::

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jamesum Established Member

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I find that how we look in pictures or videos reflect better of how we actually look than in the mirror because they let us view ourselves from third person pov.

2sunny Established Member

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it's tough to define someone's personality in a picture... the personality is what sets the person apart from being average.

Star Gazer Established Member

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Oh, please... :rolleyes::p

 

I'm serious!! :(

Sw3etdev1L Established Member

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Yes we created beauty, as what we think is beautiful.... but really everythig is beautiful no matter how disgusting it might be!.

Creation is beautiful, animals etc.....

we are as beautiful as lions, cheetahs, pinguins, etc...

we are animals..

we think we are rational but we are very irrational too.

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I certainly don't...I'd be generous in giving myself an average rating of 5...

I disagree I think you are a six-seven (more of a seven I would say) (I am brutally honest) you seem natural, healthy and you have a nice smile. You also carry yourself very well from the pics I saw. Too harsh on yourself. 7s in my opinion are just about the ideal guy, attractive not too full of themselves (usually).

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I disagree I think you are a six-seven (more of a seven I would say) (I am brutally honest) you seem natural, healthy and you have a nice smile. You also carry yourself very well from the pics I saw. Too harsh on yourself. 7s in my opinion are just about the ideal guy, attractive not too full of themselves (usually).

 

Well thanks, I really appreciate the kind words. :o

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I am pretty realistic about my looks I believe. I know if I was about 10-15 pounds thinner I'd be pretty hot. But I'm not. If I put more effort in I can be better looking...but I'm usually tired so I'll throw on jeans and chucks and there we have it. I still get stares, my fiancé thinks I'm one of the hottest things around so can't complain really. ;)

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Many people do and it is usually those who think everybody else is beneath them.

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I am pretty realistic about my looks I believe. I know if I was about 10-15 pounds thinner I'd be pretty hot. But I'm not. If I put more effort in I can be better looking...but I'm usually tired so I'll throw on jeans and chucks and there we have it. I still get stares, my fiancé thinks I'm one of the hottest things around so can't complain really. ;)

 

shutup. You have been hot for a long time. Your weight is just fine.:love:

 

Chucks?:p

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men tend to over rate and women tend to under rate their attractiveness

Star Gazer Established Member

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Well thanks, I really appreciate the kind words. :o

 

She was far too low with her rating... :love:

Ruby Slippers Established Member

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With a dad who has been very critical most of my life, and a pretty dysfunctional family in general, I think my gauge has been wonky for a long time.

 

It's hard to know. I think I have a somewhat chameleon-like appearance. MANY people have told me that I can look very different in different pictures. Sometimes I look artsy and cute. Sometimes bookish and quiet, or sporty and fun. Other times steamy and sultry -- this is the rarest, as I am least comfortable showing that side to just anyone, but I will let it out with a vengeance with a trusted partner I love.

 

I also have several sisters who have competed in and won beauty pageants (one was her state's contender in the Miss USA pageant), and who sell beauty products and would not be seen dead out of makeup. So they were always the "pretty ones", and I was the "smart one", according to my dad. Only with age and wisdom have we all figured out that pretty girls can be smart, and smart girls can be pretty.

 

Now I think I am arriving at the truth, which is that I am about average, or a little above on a good day. Maybe I'm better than average, but I've been being "the smart girl" for so long that this is something I will have to try on. And I have a pretty great body, awesome legs, smarts, and personality to up the ante, and I feel more comfortable in my skin than I ever have, so I'm not too concerned about it.

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USMCHokie Established Member

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She was far too low with her rating... :love:

 

Aww, thanks... :o:love:

Dante311 Established Member

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Heh, I think I'm a 5-6. Some people think I'm a 7-7.5

 

Sometimes I believe that I'm a 2-3.

 

it's just how confident you're feeling in your physical attraction/perception

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Physically I consider myself quite average and I think that's a pretty realistic picture. But I feel comfortable and at ease with my body, so I'm happy that way :)

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I think I'm verrry close to an 8. I say a very high 7. ;)

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