Single Married Mom

[mamagonecrazy]

Life has been a doozy with more speed bumps then I ever thought I would endure. I am a married women with 3 children. His, mine and ours. We have been together since 12 years and married 7.....his son is almost 21, mine 14 and ours is 6. Needless to say I have put up with more than anyone ever would, with the ex. Needless to she has never accepted me so I stopped trying 6 years ago. My sons father and I have a great working relationship. My husband provides his son (who's in college) everything he needs regardless if we can afford it or not....That is not a question when it comes to "his boy". I have tried everything but hes not my Biological son so it has been rough since I have a different outlook. I believe in chores, getting a job (which his son still doesn't have), learning from mistakes and teaching them about accountability.....OK enough of that I still face all these dilemmas but now even more.....I face both of us working full time jobs but I am the only one that does the parenting "stuff". I get the kids ready, take them to school, go to work, cook dinner, clean up, dishes, homework, baths (he will occasionally help with), reading at night then bed. He helps out with laundry and does pick up things around the house bitching the entire time that the kids don't put things away. He will say he has to work to support the family....uhhhh, as do I. He lives and breaths his job 6 days a week 7am to 7pm. On his day off, usually during the week, he works on friends cars, does a load or two of laundry and well its his only day off....he does not much else. I almost cant blame him but I resent it. I DO NOT get a day off. I do not have friends, cant get my nails or hair done, because I refuse to pay a sitter for that plus we can't afford it.....I can not take a promotion at work because, you guessed it, I can not rely on my husbands support with the family. I have twice told him to pack and get out and twice we "worked it out" - It doesn't last.....So here I am - I love him dearly and keep thinking it will get better. The time with the family is more important than the hours he works...blah blah blah....His son will be out of school soon and we wont have that issue....WRONG! He will live with us! UGHHHH...I could go on and on......Someone please....advise? Help? Suggestions? BTW - I am tired of paying for a marriage counselor....>Truth be told...I think I'm checked out