SlevinKalebra Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 How does everyone deal with the emotional roller coaster of divorce? I know it's normal but I feel like at times I am barely holding it together (and not very well when I do). Someone at LS descibed at being bipolar. I would add rapicycling bipolar. When I get up I pop a Xenadrin or two (I think it's a distant cousin of cocaine) this seems to even out my mood and actually makes me pretty outgoing and happy. But once it wears off I crash hard and if I take more Xenadrin I am up all night. And here's the part I really don't ge:, I know divorce is the same on the grieving scale as a death, but my marraige was horrible in so many ways why am lamenting it so much?
HopelessinDTW Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 How does everyone deal with the emotional roller coaster of divorce? I know it's normal but I feel like at times I am barely holding it together (and not very well when I do). Someone at LS descibed at being bipolar. I would add rapicycling bipolar. When I get up I pop a Xenadrin or two (I think it's a distant cousin of cocaine) this seems to even out my mood and actually makes me pretty outgoing and happy. But once it wears off I crash hard and if I take more Xenadrin I am up all night. And here's the part I really don't ge:, I know divorce is the same on the grieving scale as a death, but my marraige was horrible in so many ways why am lamenting it so much? Exercise helped me a lot. It kind of takes the edge off the ups & downs. I hope you don't get hooked on the stuff you're taking...did an MD prescribe it to deal with the divorce? I am also taking an anti-depressant which I guess is also a help. There's NO WAY you can get away from the roller-coaster however...it's just something you need to work at everyday...and over time it does get better. Sorry there is no magic potion or cure...
nobmagnet Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 hello, my doctor gave me a peice of advice. If you get up in the morning and do just the only stuff you need to (get the kids to school) you have succeeded. ANYTHING you do above that is an acheivement. Take pride if you manage to clean, cook or go to work. Even if your marriage was poo (mine was too for a long time) the fear of the future is the rollercoaster. When things start to fall into place you will find that your panic subsides and you will find that you are able to function better. I made a massive effert on my appearance. Bought new clothes and made myself go out with my good freinds and took advantage of all the things i couldnt do when i was with lowly worm. Cut yourself some slack. Talk as much as you can. try to sleep and eat. One day soon you will realise its the biggest blessing that could have happend. and most of all..................its ok to hate them, just DONT let it consume you, use it to heal and appreciate your freedom and new life. Just my way ((hugs)) Nobby xx
What_Next Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 First, I feel for you. I 100% understand what you are going through. My ups and downs are amazingly high and amazingly low. I cannot go anywhere near meds for many reasons. I encourage you to watch that and not use it as a crutch. Exercise, eating right, sleeping, volunteering, finding a new hobby all help. Keep in mind not to bite off more than you can chew in one day. Also be sure that your employer is fully aware of the situation. Good luck and post when you need help.
nobmagnet Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 i kinda ignored the meds bit becuse i dont know what it is you take. meds are ok but only if you have some medic to talk to . I have a great doc and i am honest with him. I was self medicating with wine. (still do a bit) but i told him and he is great support. to be zoned out aint so very good all the time, hides the mending. In order to mend we all have to feel some pain to learn IMO. If you get me , we need to feel, not escape. My very good freinds on here were my medication other than antidepressants. they listened, felt my pain and were and are amazing people. Try not to hide all your pain. to feel and talk helps us all. talk and talk till u bore yourself then some more. thats what we are here for. because we care. Medication is fine but if it blots out dealing with the issue then how are you gonna move on? one step at a time. one day at a time. reduce slowly with help and you will be ok soon i promice. dont stop straight the way, PM me if you wanna talk sweety nobby xx
Fooser Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 Hey, Perhaps the reason you feel so bad about the divorce even when you said the marriage wasn't that great is simply because of the stigma attached to it. Let's face it, seems like a pretty large Scarlet Letter doesn't it? It's labeling and can be embarassing to some. Trust that it isn't a wasted time of you're life. It's all part of the experience mabey? Best of luck. Fooser
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