Ice_Cream Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 It is frustrating that i am young, beautiful, educated and sexy and STILL a good man (a trustworthy and repectable man, one that doesnt cheat, a man thats into me and our children-a family guy) cannot approach me. Is it because i dont go out (to clubs, bars, movies,etc.) alot? Is it because i dont wear revealing clothes to attract men to me? or Is it that i need to be the one to approach a man and ask him if he is single and if i can have his number?...
hopesndreams Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 Is it because i dont wear revealing clothes to attract men to me? Probably that.
Fouts Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 You didn't say anything about your personality. Being young, beautiful, educated and sexy doesn't mean much without a great personality
PandorasBox Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 What are you bringing to the table in your realtionships other then you being educated and beautiful?
Feelin Frisky Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 I wouldn't recommend trawling bars but one does need to be seen in order to have opportunity. Honestly, the best way to attract someone of substance is to try to be someone of substance yourself. That means developing a long term interest other than sex or attention and endeavoring to be outstanding at what you do. There's no sitting at home and wishing. There aren't a lot of conduits out there that are good and safe bets to meet someone of character and substance in the club scene. I'm into education and human resources for instance. I get a lot more exposure to women when I'm wearing a suit and name tag at a conference and giving a presentation. They come to me and I don't have to worry myself silly about breaking the ice--my choice has resulted in a "please feel free to address me" personae rather than a "gee, do ya think she'd reject me if I speak" kind of bundle of nerves.
Author Ice_Cream Posted September 10, 2010 Author Posted September 10, 2010 Well i consider myself very respectable, loving, understanding, trustworthy, generous, helpful in everyway, shy if i dont know you and its a completely different story when i get to know you..(Friendly and Fun to be around), very dedicated in a relationship and knows how to cater to a man....but not the type to say baby...ur soo cute can i have ur number or lets go out sometime.. ...dont have that kind of courage...my friends would say look for a man what are u waiting for...easier said than done..
Author Ice_Cream Posted September 10, 2010 Author Posted September 10, 2010 ...okay thank u for the tips...FEELIN FRISKY...enjoy ur day..
Mad Max Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 Where do you normally hang out? Change your scenery and you'll find someone. If you find someone you're interested in, don't be afraid to make the first move and get a number. It's your life, only you control it. Don't let anyone else control your destiny.
Tony T Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 It is frustrating that i am young, beautiful, educated and sexy and STILL a good man (a trustworthy and repectable man, one that doesnt cheat, a man thats into me and our children-a family guy) cannot approach me. Is it because i dont go out (to clubs, bars, movies,etc.) alot? Is it because i dont wear revealing clothes to attract men to me? or Is it that i need to be the one to approach a man and ask him if he is single and if i can have his number?... Just be yourself and be open to something happening. Get out and go to places where men are...anywhere...the supermarket...the mall...the library...and you will find your love. It won't happen if you stay cooped up in your house. Stop worrying and just let it happen. May not be tomorrow but it will happen.
carhill Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 OP, expand your horizons. Try something different. The first time I took stbx to a car show (after we were married) and she saw all the single, secure, stable guys in the hobby, she told me 'this is where I should have been going to meet men when I was single'. Stbx ain't no dummy My closest male 'car friends' are, respectively, a real estate agent, a mechanical engineer and a bank analyst. I'm the gearhead grease monkey of the group. Think Jay Leno car hobby. OK, one tip. Enjoy
Author Ice_Cream Posted September 10, 2010 Author Posted September 10, 2010 ...thanks for the tips guys...
Citizen Erased Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 OP, expand your horizons. Try something different. The first time I took stbx to a car show (after we were married) and she saw all the single, secure, stable guys in the hobby, she told me 'this is where I should have been going to meet men when I was single'. Stbx ain't no dummy My closest male 'car friends' are, respectively, a real estate agent, a mechanical engineer and a bank analyst. I'm the gearhead grease monkey of the group. Think Jay Leno car hobby. OK, one tip. Enjoy That's a good tip. I hope she won't mind being bored to death with car talk the rest of her life (no offence meant to you carhill ) but guy things attract guys, makes sense.
carhill Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 Trust me, a single car guy won't be regaling a potential girlfriend with his knowledge of clutchless transmissions and fuel injection systems. He'll be doing what all normal males do, flirting . A bunch of us old farts were standing around talking about a SOHC Cobra at a recent show in LA and this lady comes over, bends over the fenderwell, points and goes 'what's that?'. All conversation ceases When a woman and I get to talking plants at a nursery, trust me that pollination is more on my mind than planting. IOW, the venue is just a way to meet people. Trying something different opens up new opportunities.
K'aycie Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 I don't know OP, I find it extremely difficult these days. You try to look for certain characteristics, but even though it looks good on paper, you soon discover that underneath it is a pile of horse sh*t.
WalkingtheAbyss Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 Of course there is, its like asking if there's any good women out there. Unfortunately some people are natural twat magnets and take ages to find a good person
skydiveaddict Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 It is frustrating that i am young, beautiful, educated and sexy and STILL a good man (a trustworthy and repectable man, one that doesnt cheat, a man thats into me and our children-a family guy) cannot approach me. Is it because i dont go out (to clubs, bars, movies,etc.) alot? Is it because i dont wear revealing clothes to attract men to me? or Is it that i need to be the one to approach a man and ask him if he is single and if i can have his number?... Yes there are lots of good men out there for you. Perhaps you're not looking in the right places
jamesum Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 (edited) Women and their sense of entitlement. It seems to me that every female in this world thinks that every single one of them deserve to be surrounded by men left and right without them putting in any effort. Honestly I blame Disney for this. Their brainwashing princess cartoons have made sure that countless young girls would grow up with Cinderella Complex and live with the disease for the rest of their lives. Guess what? If you wanna find someone, you cant just sit in the corner by yourself 24/7 waiting for something to magically happen. Get out there. Socialize. Make tons of friends. Edited September 11, 2010 by jamesum
SincereOnlineGuy Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 It is frustrating that i am young, beautiful, educated and sexy and STILL a good man (a trustworthy and repectable man, one that doesnt cheat, a man thats into me and our children-a family guy) cannot approach me. Is it because i dont go out (to clubs, bars, movies,etc.) alot? Is it because i dont wear revealing clothes to attract men to me? or Is it that i need to be the one to approach a man and ask him if he is single and if i can have his number?... Mostly it is because you're probably not meeting enough people all over your life. I don't care if they're 89-year-old patients at rest homes, or 12-year-old kids who are out mowing lawns. Those oldsters have grandchildren and children, and the kids have parents. Just find reasons in your everyday life to go out and meet people. Taking a class is excellent, particularly for the likes of you, for you are seen from the start as a "peer" in the class environment and people who MIGHT not approach you outside of school will be more courageous AND will have something to converse about once they do have your attention. Just meet more people in many different ways. Eat your lunch in a different, more populated area... do whatever it takes. Indeed your dynamics may be different upon close inspection, but they, too, can be overcome.
BlackLovely Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 It's so true that love always happens when you are not looking. I think that part of the reason is when you are not searching, there is no frustrated or desperate vibe. In terms of meeting people, think of what you like to do best and congregate around those who have the same interests. At least then, you'll have common ground with a man you met in this manner. Keep yourself busy, rather than focusing on your loneliness. I know that this is easier said than done, but once you shift what you choose to think about, there will be an improvement. I met my fiance on a blind date. I was simply bored that night and it was also when I stopped wearing a brace on my arm, which was healed from being broken. It was just when I started to feel happy and independent again.
Amira4210 Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Would you date you? Ask yourself that, and really be honest with yourself. If you dont want to date you then who would lol?
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