Dmoney Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 My Girlfriend and I have split up after a 2 1/2 year a relationship and it's eating me up inside. The following will be kind of long, but I think it's necessary so that people know my situation. I was with my now ex gf since march ofmy freshman year of college. We started dating 2 1/2-3 months after she left her 2 month bf----I know, bad sign already. Anyways, things were going really good until june of 2008. My ex was really against any kind of stripper or anything like that, but I wasn't aware at the time until I told her that I was going to go to a bachelor party. She didn't like me going, but I went anyways because it was important to me. well i ended up getting a lap dance, she was pissed, and almost left me, but we didn't break up. we worked through it and kept the relationship on. So fast forward through my whole sophomore year of college. During that time, we fought a lot, got into disagreements, but we stayed together. I said things I didn't mean at times, and so did she, but I was still really good to her. I did just about anything for this girl when she needed it, and she always expressed her appreciation. However, the fighting and the stress just took over and we broke up in may of 2009. i spent that whole summer trying to get her back, but it didn't work. finally, in august of 2009, she and I started talking again, and we hit it off again. we spent almost every day together up until we started dating again in February of 2010. Well, things were much better this time, less fighting and all that, but that didn't last too long of a time. we were doing ok for a bit, and then in June, I said some stuff I didn't mean, but nonetheless, it took its toll. We then took a break for a couple weeks, she came back, and decided that the relationship was over. so here I am, 4 weeks later, and i still miss her. I've gone out a ton with my friends, concentrated on my senior work in college, been lifting for 7 weeks, heavily going to church, etc, and have been in NC for those 4 weeks. I'm kind of a veteran to this NC stuff, but it still hurts a ton. So my questions are: do you think she'll come back? or should I just move on? It still hurts a ton even though i've been really busy.
PegNosePete Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 You should move on. This relationship obviously isn't going to work. It has failed so many times already, what makes you think another try will be any different? A quote often wrongly attributed to Einstein: "Insanity is doing the same thing over and over, and expecting different results".
Author Dmoney Posted September 11, 2010 Author Posted September 11, 2010 We've only broken up twice. Now I'm sure yea, 2 times, is one too many, but I really do love this girl; she's my college sweetheart and it's hard to just let that go.
Don Ho Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 We've only broken up twice. Now I'm sure yea, 2 times, is one too many, but I really do love this girl; she's my college sweetheart and it's hard to just let that go. Ok, then don't let her go .... and she will just dump you again. Is 3 times a charm?
Author Dmoney Posted September 12, 2010 Author Posted September 12, 2010 since we were close friends before the relationship, do I let that go to? I like to have faith in people ya know?
Don Ho Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 since we were close friends before the relationship, do I let that go to? I like to have faith in people ya know? YES, you let that go for now if you want any possibility of a future. But actually since she dumped you twice, I would move on. You can be friends again in a year or two if it was such a strong friendship. Faith has nothing to do with it Bro, it has to do with human instinct and the dating ritual.
Author Dmoney Posted September 12, 2010 Author Posted September 12, 2010 Yea Don, i see what you mean. i will never understand where women come from. A man is good to you, sure he says things he doesn't mean, but he takes good care of you at all times............and you leave? doesn't make any sense.
Billie The Puppet Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 (edited) Yea Don, i see what you mean. i will never understand where women come from. A man is good to you, sure he says things he doesn't mean, but he takes good care of you at all times............and you leave? doesn't make any sense. I am right there with you, but I see where I went wrong as Don say's I became a pussy she lost attraction due to it. I know I can be a MAN again but I can't get my Ex to notice me as such because we are in NC. I don't feel the need to contact my ex and yes I still want her back but it's not in my hands and if I get her back I have to care less about the relationship than her. Edited September 12, 2010 by Billie The Puppet
Author Dmoney Posted September 12, 2010 Author Posted September 12, 2010 yea, i've been in NC for 4 weeks now and it's still tough. I know she's left 2 times now, and I know that I shouldn't go back again, but I love her to death so to speak ya know? now, I don't think she'll come back, for reals. I don't predict her even speaking to me again, so i'll be amazed if she does. why do women prefer dating the bad boys? for reals why date someone that beats you, knocks up your sister, cusses out your mom, and hates your dad? haha i'll never understand that.
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