TheLoveAdvisor Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 Clean eyes, means clean soul! Hopefully you will come to the day that I came to and realize its so much better than before....
ToriAmos Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 Personally, I don't care if my boyfriend watches porn. He's very honest with me about it if I ask and he doesn't hide things from me. I'd much prefer he'd be honest with me. I mean, I don't like him going on about "hot" women or anything like that, and he never does use derogatory terms in front of me (or really in front of anyone from what I've inferred from his friends). We talk about masterbating and it's completely natural. I'm too embarrassed to tell him, but on rare occasions I'll watch porn, so how can I be a hypocrite and tell him he can't? It's a personal choice, but I know my boyfriend only watches straight porn, doesn't have weird three some fantasies, and is very faithful. We live 30 minutes away, so sex isn't always an option more than 2 or 3 times a week. I'm not about to ask him to stop "taking care of himself" when we're not together. Most of the time he says he doesn't actually watch porn to do so anyway, not that it's an issue. I recently had a surgery and the doctors suggested no sex for at least 2 weeks (still painful, so I'm going for more). He's totally supportive of that and is not pressuring me at all. So I don't feel like I would have the right to boss him around with his own time at home.
Titania22 Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 Some? I think alot more than "some" men have a difficulty dating. Look I admit I get bitter at times to but I don't hate women, it is what it is you know. Men are expected to be assertive and chase a woman, and not all men like it, alot of men are shy and hate it to have to always chase a woman they like. Men know that if they are not the "aggressor" then they'll never get a woman... I am a woman, and granted I am the exception, but I don't like guys being all assertive. Most guys I am not attracted to, so it would be much easier for me if guys wouldn't hit on me. Yes, return eye contact. Yes, smile. But if I am interested let me be the one to approach. I am not awesome at it yet, but I will give it a go, if I see a guy I like and he smiles at me. Also I have intuition. I know when a guy is interested, even if he thinks he is being subtle. Once I pick up that subliminal signal I will make it pretty obvious if I return the attraction.
Anela Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 I don't want my wife constantly checking out my boss' house and dreaming of his lifestyle and of the salary he makes. That makes me uncomfortable and insecure. It can only lead to bad feelings. She doesn't. For my wife, me checking out porn and looking (and wanking) over other women's bodies makes her uncomfortable and insecure. It can only lead to bad feelings. Applying the golden rule, I elect to install a content control program on my own computer. Nobody told me to. I did it and my wife doesn't even know I did. I need to enter a password and specify some options to be able to view porn. Too much work. I'd rather walk out and grab her ass. Easier, and makes her feel good about herself. So far, it has worked well. But I have what I consider a very very good marriage with a fantastic woman for nearly 20 years. I feel lucky--don't wanna eff that up. Making her feel uncomfortable and insecure is one sure way to eff that up. This is wonderful. It's refreshing to hear of someone thinking of their partner's feelings.
enufdrama Posted October 16, 2010 Posted October 16, 2010 Clean eyes, means clean soul! Hopefully you will come to the day that I came to and realize its so much better than before.... I totally agree. sometimes people have to learn lessons the hard way though and i have too. and this is one of those lessons i have had to learn if I want the life i believe most of us strive to have.
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