oyaoya Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 Ok, Here is the problem, my gf lied to me about her past "relationship" when we start dating. I believed her at the beginning, but kinda found her story a bit suspicious. So about 4 month later, I ask her again and miraculously a lot of detail of her story changed. I start to ask her more and more often and each time her story changes. I keep asking her to tell me the truth and stop lying to me. About half a year ago, i couldn't take it anymore and scream at her to tell me the truth. If you guys think she came clean after that... well no. She still did tell me the truth. So in the end I guess the truth out of her and told her if this is what happen and she told me yes. I don't have an issue with her past, is just that she lied to me even after i found out she was lying and in the end, I had to guess the truth out of her that hurts me. I really don't know what to do, I really love her, but I don't know if i could trust her again.
L3stat Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 ?!? Trust takes time, and if you love her then you will eventually trust her just take your time. Good Luck!
Author oyaoya Posted September 10, 2010 Author Posted September 10, 2010 I want to trust her again, but she isn't doing anything to a least make up for the pain she cause me. She lied to me right when we started to date and kept lying about it for a year and half. also, if she lied to me with something this simple, what will keep her from lying to me for something else in the future?
JustJoe Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 Dude, sounds to me as if you have enough concerns to dump her. If she isn't truthful and you can't depend on her, where does that leave you?
Author oyaoya Posted September 10, 2010 Author Posted September 10, 2010 Sigh, i guess breaking up is the best solution in this case......
someotherguy Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 What is it about her part relationship that is any of your business? While I agree it's not great that she lied to you, many times people will lie to cover up something shameful or hurtful. She may have simply been trying to spare your feelings, and judging by your reaction here, she may have been right. I think you need to sit her down and tell her what you've said in this thread. That her dishonesty is affecting you deeply, and in order to keep the relationship from failing, she needs to simply tell you the whole truth, as ugly as it may be. Assure her you love her warts and all, and if it turns out that the truth is more than you can handle, move on.
fltc Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 I really love her, but I don't know if i could trust her again. Trust is the most important part of love, if you can't trust her you should dump her or else your distrust will create a toxic relationship. Only you can decide.
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