Cracker Jack Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 I always tell my ugly buddies dont let a womens validation or lack of make or break you becasue if you are not attratcive at all theres a chance you might be relationshipless forever and need to learn to live with no female effection Wow! Some friend you are. That's just not right. Being attractive varies so much; there's no one way to look at it. What kind of advice is that?
SteveC80 Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 Wow! Some friend you are. That's just not right. Being attractive varies so much; there's no one way to look at it. What kind of advice is that? My buddy came to me crying becasue he cant get women and was feeling depressed becasue of it so instead of giving him fluff advice and cliche beauties in the eye of the beholder theres someone out there for everyone bs i told him he needs to be happy on his own and look at women as a plus if it ever happens not a need Ive tried hundreds of times to hook him up and each time the women looked horrifed and said hes an nice guy but uhh hes not attratcive at all so im guessing hes gonna have a hard time ever getting a women even with the useless cliches u want me to throw him Im just tryign to get him happy to be alone otherwise he might kill himself
PJKino Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 My buddy came to me crying becasue he cant get women and was feeling depressed becasue of it so instead of giving him fluff advice and cliche beauties in the eye of the beholder theres someone out there for everyone bs i told him he needs to be happy on his own and look at women as a plus if it ever happens not a need Ive tried hundreds of times to hook him up and each time the women looked horrifed and said hes an nice guy but uhh hes not attratcive at all so im guessing hes gonna have a hard time ever getting a women even with the useless cliches u want me to throw him Im just tryign to get him happy to be alone otherwise he might kill himself I agree..Im to the point i dont think women will ever be attracted to me and im kinda of at peace with it as much as i can.. I know people try to be nice with these cliche sayings but they have very little meaning.. Maybe one out of every few hundred women are attracted to me but i dont have the heart or energy to try to find one that soemwhat tolerates me physically its too tiring and dejecting the whole process..
somedude81 Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 So you'd date a girl but not be sexually attracted to her? Seems a bit backwards. Probably leads you into the dreaded friendszone all of the time too. Plus if it takes you 2 seconds, it takes a girl .0000005 seconds to know if she'll sleep with you. No spark, no interest, no date. I wouldn't date a girl that girl that I'm not sexually attracted to. It just takes one look to know if I could consider sleeping with her. Actually the whole thing is subconscious. I don't look at a girl and go, "yup, I want to have sex with her." Mostly it's, oh she's cute, she's hot, she's funny looking etc. Do girls look at guys and think, "I'm never going to sleep with him." You take the hottest girl on the planet and dress her in frumpy, baggy clothes and no guy will hit on her. No she'd still get hit on unless she was wearing a burka. A girl that is only decent in looks with a cool personality will get tons of attention from guys. The last girl I had a few dates with, had many more guys after her than I would have liked. Face it, looks play a huge part in attraction of both sexes. We still rely on trying for the best chance to pass on the best genes for survival. Being a wallflower with a great personality just doesn't cut it. Also, the cologne of "Desperation" by Nice Guy doesn't go well either. No matter what you are wearing or how you look. I never said I'm a wallflower nor am I some ugly dude. I think I'm good enough for the average girl and that's who I'm after. But obviously, I'm missing something.
Cracker Jack Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 My buddy came to me crying becasue he cant get women and was feeling depressed becasue of it so instead of giving him fluff advice and cliche beauties in the eye of the beholder theres someone out there for everyone bs i told him he needs to be happy on his own and look at women as a plus if it ever happens not a need Ive tried hundreds of times to hook him up and each time the women looked horrifed and said hes an nice guy but uhh hes not attratcive at all so im guessing hes gonna have a hard time ever getting a women even with the useless cliches u want me to throw him Im just tryign to get him happy to be alone otherwise he might kill himself No one said you needed to throw cliches at him. My point is telling someone they're not attractive at all, and should prepare for a life of loneliness could actually do more harm than good; as in, get them to commit suicide a lot quicker to avoid the pain of loneliness. Have no idea how you're trying to make him happy with that.
SteveC80 Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 No one said you needed to throw cliches at him. My point is telling someone they're not attractive at all, and should prepare for a life of loneliness could actually do more harm than good; as in, get them to commit suicide a lot quicker to avoid the pain of loneliness. Have no idea how you're trying to make him happy with that. So if i tell him you are attractive women will like you is that gonnam ease his pain of many more rejections? Im trying to get him to accept being alone becasue theres a pretty damn good chance hes gonna be alone for the rest of his life or at least awhile so he might as well try to be happy then think if he cant get women hes a failure
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