Cee Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 IMO, having owned some big lizards, that moniker seems quite appropriate. They simply eat, poop, and make little lizards. Pretty basic cold-blooded reptile stuff. If the female doesn't like him, he gets a tail in the face or a nice 'love' bite. OP, if you want to learn more about rejection, watch lizards OT, but I love lizards I have kept them (anoles & swifts) over the years. I have hypothesized that deep down I am cold hearted because I like reptiles better than puppies and kittens.
Green Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 I could care less if a girl rejects me and I really wouldn't spend time thinking about it. Actions speak louder then words so why not make some bold moves.
kiss_andmakeup Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 Hmm...why oh why would a girl reject a guy for a date? -She's too busy with work/school -She's seeing or is interested in someone else -She's going through a stressful time in her life -She doesn't want to complicate a friendship -She's a lesbian but most likely... She's just not interested.
Green Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 Hmm...why oh why would a girl reject a guy for a date? -She's too busy with work/school -She's seeing or is interested in someone else -She's going through a stressful time in her life -She doesn't want to complicate a friendship -She's a lesbian but most likely... She's just not interested. NOT INTERESTED.... But what if the guy is interested... thats just bs
irc333 Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 Hmm...why oh why would a girl reject a guy for a date? Funny, I had someone give me that line when she was unemployed...that she didn't have time to date.....oh joy! Funny how when someone gives you an excuse and expects you to buy it. (well maybe that's the hint then. )
kiss_andmakeup Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 Funny, I had someone give me that line when she was unemployed...that she didn't have time to date.....oh joy! Funny how when someone gives you an excuse and expects you to buy it. (well maybe that's the hint then. ) That was kind of my point. There's a plethora of possible reasons or excuses...but most likely, she's just not interested. Unfortunately a lot of women (and men) are too worried about hurting feelings to come out and say it.
irc333 Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 That was kind of my point. There's a plethora of possible reasons or excuses...but most likely, she's just not interested. Unfortunately a lot of women (and men) are too worried about hurting feelings to come out and say it. you know what, I had 2 women actually honest with me, and it really didn't bother me at all, that's the part that shocked me, and I even THANKED them for it. ANd they seemed to be kind of elated that my feelings were not hurt.
somedude81 Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 Do you really want girls who are not attracted to you to go out with you? YES!!! From what I've experienced in life and read on the forums, girls are very picky about looks. But a guys personality can make up the difference. I have no doubt that if I can actually get girls to go out with me, I can show them who I am and then they can start to like me. But because I'm only 5'6 and not super good looking, I feel that I'm not even given a shot simply based on how I look. I'd understand if I was deformed, ugly or just really fat, but I'm none of those things. I'm also a little quiet at first and take a small amount of time to open up to people. But the time I can do that, she's already made up her mind.
counterman Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 For me, I wouldn't want to go out with a girl who wasn't attracted to me. I do not need her to give me a chance to prove anything or to show what a great guy I am. So, when a girl isn't interested, it's always time to move on. I have never had any girls tell me upfront though. But, I usually know they aren't interested when they don't reply to my call. The ones that do are No biggie.
somedude81 Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 I suspect that your dating life has been a bit more successful than my own. I'm 29 now and girls just have not given me a shot.
PJKino Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 Looks are very important to women which is why i stay out of the dating pool and dont ask women out..
sweetjasmine Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 The stupidest thing is when a girl who is single and hasn't dated anybody in a while rejects you. Um, why? I've been in those shoes, and I've rejected guys because I didn't feel anything for them or because I didn't want to go out on a date with anyone. Why would I bother going on a date with them and leading them on if I already knew I wasn't interested? Would you rather they go on a date with you and then leave you hanging so you can complain about how "women are x, y, z, and she didn't call me back, and what did I do wrong, and why doesn't she like me?!?" ? Not every person out there is waiting for any opportunity to go on a date with someone. Sometimes people would rather be left alone, and not everyone is so absolutely desperate for a date that they'll say yes to anyone with a pulse who seems remotely interested. If a girl you found completely off-putting and unattractive asked you out on a date, would you reject her? Let's say she's 240 pounds, has buck teeth, talks with a lisp, never graduated high school, and is extremely socially awkward. Would you say no? What, are you waiting for a princess who's off sleeping with hotter guys?
Stung Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 If a girl you found completely off-putting and unattractive asked you out on a date, would you reject her? Let's say she's 240 pounds, has buck teeth, talks with a lisp, never graduated high school, and is extremely socially awkward. Would you say no? What, are you waiting for a princess who's off sleeping with hotter guys? Aw, sweetjasmine, I'm having my teeth fixed. Why you gotta dis me like that?
sweetjasmine Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 Aw, sweetjasmine, I'm having my teeth fixed. Why you gotta dis me like that? Hey, I was just honestly describing myself. Sheesh.
Stung Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 Hey, I was just honestly describing myself. Sheesh. Twinsies! Totally valid point though, I'm sure that since sumdude has been single for a while now he would never even consider rejecting either of us lisping awkward 240 lb buck-toothed hotties but would instead be immediately attracted to our beautiful souls. After all, he's not some kind of bitch princess.
Eeyore79 Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 From what I've experienced in life and read on the forums, girls are very picky about looks. But a guys personality can make up the difference. Sometimes it can, and sometimes it can't. There are some levels of ugly which can't be fixed by any amount of personality. I have no doubt that if I can actually get girls to go out with me, I can show them who I am and then they can start to like me. I (and most other people) have a line which cannot be crossed in terms of looks. If a guy is sort of average looking and not particularly hot, then I can be persuaded to like him if I get to know him. I'll always be aware that he isn't hot, it just won't matter so much. But if he's on the other side of my "Eww, no way!" line, then it doesn't matter how nice he is, his personality can't make up for me being repulsed by him. Different women draw that line in different places, of course.
SteveC80 Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 I'll always be aware that he isn't hot, What a sweetheart you are This Men is why you better make sure a women is animalistically attracted to you otherwise shell always feel she settled and can do better if she doesnt find you "hot"
somedude81 Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 Um, why? I've been in those shoes, and I've rejected guys because I didn't feel anything for them or because I didn't want to go out on a date with anyone. Why would I bother going on a date with them and leading them on if I already knew I wasn't interested? But how do you know that you can't be interested if you barely know the guy? All your doing it is basing it on physical attraction or if the guy is super smooth. Would you rather they go on a date with you and then leave you hanging so you can complain about how "women are x, y, z, and she didn't call me back, and what did I do wrong, and why doesn't she like me?!?" ? I would like to go on the date. That way I can express who I am. As for leaving me hanging not returning calls etc. Hopefully she would mature enough to tell me that she isn't interested at that point. Not every person out there is waiting for any opportunity to go on a date with someone. Sometimes people would rather be left alone, and not everyone is so absolutely desperate for a date that they'll say yes to anyone with a pulse who seems remotely interested. Fair enough, I can understand that some people would rather be alone for the time being. Going out with anybody with a pulse is very different from going out with a guy you've talked to every once in a while. If a girl you found completely off-putting and unattractive asked you out on a date, would you reject her? Let's say she's 240 pounds, has buck teeth, talks with a lisp, never graduated high school, and is extremely socially awkward. Would you say no? What, are you waiting for a princess who's off sleeping with hotter guys? Of course I wouldn't. The problem with your analogy is that most guys that are being rejected without even given a chance are not fat or ugly dudes. I'm just a normal looking guy with an average body. As far as I can tell, the only thing that hurts my appearance is being 5'6. The furthest thing I'm doing is waiting for a princess. Most of the girls I've been trying to pursue are in the 6-7 range. Sometimes it can, and sometimes it can't. There are some levels of ugly which can't be fixed by any amount of personality. I (and most other people) have a line which cannot be crossed in terms of looks. If a guy is sort of average looking and not particularly hot, then I can be persuaded to like him if I get to know him. I'll always be aware that he isn't hot, it just won't matter so much. But if he's on the other side of my "Eww, no way!" line, then it doesn't matter how nice he is, his personality can't make up for me being repulsed by him. Different women draw that line in different places, of course. That makes perfect sense. Though I'm not talking about eww guys. If a guy makes zero effort for his appearance and grooming then he deserves to be alone. BTW, "I'll always be aware that he isn't hot" is a very shallow thought. When I'm with girls that I'm attracted to, I don't care that they aren't the best looking and that there are hotter girls around. Her flaws become non-existent unless they are glaring obvious.
waynebrady Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 To be honest, I really don't understand why girls reject guys for dates, either in the form of a straight, flat rejection, or in the case of her giving him her number, but ghosting when he tries to reach her. It really doesn't make much sense to me. I've always heard that women are attracted more to a guy's personality than his looks. The whole point of a date for the guy is to get to show his personality to her. Before the first date, she doesn't know a thing about him; he hasn't shown his personality to her. So what could she possibly be basing a rejection on if she knows nothing about the guy? I don't know... But ok look, you are a guy, you are gonna get rejected alot over and over again until you find a woman. That's what its like being a man, you just need to accept it and get on with it.
SteveC80 Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 BTW, "I'll always be aware that he isn't hot" is a very shallow thought. When I'm with girls that I'm attracted to, I don't care that they aren't the best looking and that there are hotter girls around. Her flaws become non-existent unless they are glaring obvious. You gotta remember allot of women on here are vain loons who base their self worth on how their s/o looks You see some of these womens pictures and think to yourself why in god's name do they feel they deserve 9's and 10's
EasyHeart Posted September 10, 2010 Posted September 10, 2010 We men reject women all day and every day -- we reject them by not asking them out. And mostly we reject them because they aren't pretty enough. So why shouldn't women reject us because they don't think we're attractive? You can't change how tall you are or the basic appearance of your face, but you can do a hell of a lot with the rest of yourself. Are you in good shape? Do you have a flattering haircut? Do you dress sharp? I know for a fact that when I walk home from work in a suit, women leer at me like I was a giant box of Godiva chocolates; and when I walk home from the gym in jeans and a hoodie, those same women hold their purses tighter and start walking faster. You say that you have a great personality and you just need a "chance" to show them. Well, your "chance" is in the first 5 minutes that you meet them. If you don't show her that you're smart, funny and confident in the first 5 minutes you meet, why should she waste her time going out with you? I'd rather stay home alone than go out with an ugly, boring woman. Why should you expect that women be any different? It's fine to sit around whining about how women "should" act and feeling sorry for yourself, but it's never going to change anything. Figure out how they DO act, and then adapt.
somedude81 Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 We men reject women all day and every day -- we reject them by not asking them out. Sorry, I don't agree with you here. Me not asking out a woman is not a rejection from me. That's a ridiculous concept. You can't change how tall you are or the basic appearance of your face, but you can do a hell of a lot with the rest of yourself. Are you in good shape? Do you have a flattering haircut? Do you dress sharp? I know for a fact that when I walk home from work in a suit, women leer at me like I was a giant box of Godiva chocolates; and when I walk home from the gym in jeans and a hoodie, those same women hold their purses tighter and start walking faster. I try to look as best as I can. I'm in college and I don't have a lot of money. I usually stick to wearing a cool shirt and shorts. My hair is fine. My physical fitness is an ongoing process. I'm in the middle of bulking. You say that you have a great personality and you just need a "chance" to show them. Well, your "chance" is in the first 5 minutes that you meet them. If you don't show her that you're smart, funny and confident in the first 5 minutes you meet, why should she waste her time going out with you? I'd rather stay home alone than go out with an ugly, boring woman. Why should you expect that women be any different? I don't even decide if I want to date a woman in the first 5 minutes I meet her. It takes much longer to find out if she's a cool person. The only I decide on is if she's doable or not and that only takes 2 seconds to decide.
gypsy_nicky Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 Sorry, I don't agree with you here. Me not asking out a woman is not a rejection from me. That's a ridiculous concept. I try to look as best as I can. I'm in college and I don't have a lot of money. I usually stick to wearing a cool shirt and shorts. My hair is fine. My physical fitness is an ongoing process. I'm in the middle of bulking. I don't even decide if I want to date a woman in the first 5 minutes I meet her. It takes much longer to find out if she's a cool person. The only I decide on is if she's doable or not and that only takes 2 seconds to decide. I agree with this
WTRanger Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 I don't even decide if I want to date a woman in the first 5 minutes I meet her. It takes much longer to find out if she's a cool person. The only I decide on is if she's doable or not and that only takes 2 seconds to decide. So you'd date a girl but not be sexually attracted to her? Seems a bit backwards. Probably leads you into the dreaded friendszone all of the time too. Plus if it takes you 2 seconds, it takes a girl .0000005 seconds to know if she'll sleep with you. No spark, no interest, no date. Yes it seems brutal but attraction still is an animal instinct. Just because we think we've evolved simply because we now have cell phones that can call Jesus, we still rely an awful lot on our primate brains for sex and attraction. You take the hottest girl on the planet and dress her in frumpy, baggy clothes and no guy will hit on her. You take frumpy girl and put her in skin-tight clothes, show some cleavage, make-up, hair, heels, etc and I bet she'd walk home with 25 numbers at the end of the night. Face it, looks play a huge part in attraction of both sexes. We still rely on trying for the best chance to pass on the best genes for survival. Being a wallflower with a great personality just doesn't cut it. Also, the cologne of "Desperation" by Nice Guy doesn't go well either. No matter what you are wearing or how you look.
SteveC80 Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 (edited) So you'd date a girl but not be sexually attracted to her? Seems a bit backwards. Probably leads you into the dreaded friendszone all of the time too. Plus if it takes you 2 seconds, it takes a girl .0000005 seconds to know if she'll sleep with you. No spark, no interest, no date. Yes it seems brutal but attraction still is an animal instinct. Just because we think we've evolved simply because we now have cell phones that can call Jesus, we still rely an awful lot on our primate brains for sex and attraction. You take the hottest girl on the planet and dress her in frumpy, baggy clothes and no guy will hit on her. You take frumpy girl and put her in skin-tight clothes, show some cleavage, make-up, hair, heels, etc and I bet she'd walk home with 25 numbers at the end of the night. Face it, looks play a huge part in attraction of both sexes. We still rely on trying for the best chance to pass on the best genes for survival. Being a wallflower with a great personality just doesn't cut it. Also, the cologne of "Desperation" by Nice Guy doesn't go well either. No matter what you are wearing or how you look. I agree..People are as shallow as their options the only people who say looks dont matter at all are unattratcive people with no options I always tell my ugly buddies dont let a womens validation or lack of make or break you becasue if you are not attratcive at all theres a chance you might be relationshipless forever and need to learn to live with no female effection Edited September 11, 2010 by SteveC80
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